Simple tips to have more confidence in yourself

Confidence is something that all of us, especially us women wish we had more of. We are constantly comparing ourselves to others who seem to have tons of confidence & we wish we were more like that. We wish we could just live confidently & authentically.

Here’s the thing- YOU CAN! You absolutely have all the power inside of you to reach that level of confidence that you desire. There are just a couple tips that I have to help you gain that confidence!

PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF

The most prominent characteristic of someone who is confident is that they believe in themselves. When you believe in yourself, you are more likely to carry yourself more confidently than when you don’t believe in yourself. It seems simple, but this is definitely the very first thing to do when trying to live more confidently. But, this doesn’t come without training your brain to stop saying all of those mean things to yourself. 

Make it a goal to start creating awareness around all the things that you say to yourself & try to challenge yourself to replace negative self talk with a positive one. Once you start to train your brain to think of yourself more positively, the more likely you are to start believing in yourself & living more confidently.

CREATE HEALTHY HABITS

The more you take care of yourself, the better you will feel. 

At the end of the day, how you treat yourself & your body will have a major impact on how you feel about yourself overall. Did you know that the food that you eat has an impact on how you feel? On your mental health? So, if you are eating crappy food all the time, you are probably going to feel crappy. The result of feeling crappy often leads to beating yourself up, getting angry at yourself, self sabotage, not believing in yourself to be able to do certain things, etc, etc. 

Creating healthy habits into your lifestyle will have such a major impact on your life & how you feel about yourself, you might be surprised! When you take care of yourself, the better you will feel and the more confident energy you will put out into the world. These habits might look different for different people, but some ideas include (definitely not limited to): 

  • Moving your body
  • Feeding your body healthy foods
  • Picking up a book instead of watching so much TV
  • Making it a goal to park further away in the parking lot so you can get in extra steps

When you take the time to engage in some simple habits, you are more likely to start feeling better about yourself. Incorporating simple healthy habits throughout your day can make a HUGE impact on how you feel overall. 

Sometimes, it can often cause a ripple effect. Meaning, one simple habit is likely to lead to another, and another, and another. 

SET THE RIGHT GOALS & ACTIONABLE STEPS TO ACHIEVE THEM

Here’s the thing, I’m actually not much of a fan of setting goals, but I have worked hard on creating more confidence around my ability to achieve all of my goals & aspirations. 

Setting goals is something that we all know is very important to making sure that you are continuing to move forward, staying focused, but if you don’t approach them right, they won’t work right. When you don’t think you are achieving your goals, it really affects your overall confidence in yourself.

When I used to set goals, I only focused on the big picture & often on things that were not in my control. Things like, getting a job, making enough money to move out of my parents house, etc. These things are great goals to have, but achieving those goals are in the hands of someone else. Instead of focusing on the big picture, you have to break it down into things that you are in control of. Like, making it a goal to apply to 10 jobs a day & ask for feedback if you don’t get the job. 

When you break your goals down into actionable steps that you can start taking, it’s so much easier to actually reach your goals and feel really good about it. When you see that you are reaching your goals, you have so much more confidence in yourself & your abilities!

What can you start doing TODAY to get you to that goal?

FACE YOUR FEARS & START TAKING ACTION 

One of the most important things that you have to do in order to gain more confidence in yourself is to start facing your fears. Fears in terms of something that you know you need to do in order to gain confidence in yourself. Something like, public speaking or taking the leap to start your own business. 

In order to have more confidence in yourself, you have to start getting uncomfy & doing things that make you want to jump out of your skin. Trust me, every single time that I have done something that scares the crap out of me, I not only grow from the experience, but I gain so much more confidence in myself & my abilities.  

So, what is something that you really want to do, but you know there is a possibility that it could take you to the next level?

Do that. Be okay with failing because that’s where growth happens.

Related: 9 Simple Tips to Improve Your Life

SEE THE OPPORTUNITIES & LEARNING EXPERIENCES IN FAILURES

When you start facing your fears & start taking scary action, you are more likely to fail & fall on your face quite a bit. That’s not to scare you or anything, but to empower you. There is such a negative connotation with failing, because it means that you didn’t succeed. 

Every failure comes with a learning experience. When you fail, you get uncomfortable, but you stand back up knowing more than you did before and you keep going. When you keep going, you start to feel more confident in yourself. It might be a journey, but when you look back at all that you have been able to accomplish, it really puts things into perspective about how much you have truly accomplished.

I talk about this in my post about how Getting Fired Was The Best Thing To Happen To Me. Getting fired is often seen as a bad thing, right? It’s seen as a “failure”. But, I took that learning experience and turned it into building my own business because I learned that I wasn’t meant to be proving myself to Corporate America. 

You can let your failures hold you down & discourage you, or you can see them as a learning experience & allow growth to happen from it. It might feel crappy for a little bit, but when you are able to shift this perception, it is incredibly empowering. 

JOURNAL ABOUT YOUR STRENGTHS, YOUR EXPERIENCES & WHAT YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF 

I often write about & preach about the benefits of journaling & I do because I truly believe in the therapeutic nature of it. In addition to practicing positive self talk, it’s also important to write about everything that is going on. 

Write it all down! Get yourself a nice journal & make it a habit to write in it daily. Write down everything that is going right now- what you love about yourself, what you are happy about, what is bothering you, what you are going to do to continue moving forward. If you don’t deal with the emotions that you are feeling & also take the time to acknowledge & celebrate yourself, you are going to continue to stay stuck.

Many success stories & successful people include journaling constantly in their daily routine in order to get everything out of their subconscious & work through what is going on. It’s something that you have to do! 

Journaling can even help with working through any limiting beliefs you might have, what is bothering you right now. It can help you have breakthroughs & “aha!” moments. 

If you are struggling with what to write about, I wrote a post on 50 Journal Prompts For Self Reflection & Self Discovery that you might find helpful! Inside that post is also a free printable guide that you can download! ❤

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF & YOUR SUCCESS TO OTHERS 

Here’s the thing that I really want you to think about. We are all on this journey of life- we’re all different & in different points of our journey. We have all had different life experiences that have lead us to where each of us are today, which means that we are all going to be at different point of our life. When you are comparing yourself to someone else, where they are, you are sabotaging your beliefs about yourself. You are looking at them and thinking, “why isn’t that me?” It’s not you because you aren’t them!

If you find that you are having trouble not comparing yourself, stop following certain people on social media- even if it’s friends or family. It doesn’t mean that you don’t care about them, it’s just something that you need to do in order to stop the habit. 

Once you can your power back from other people, that’s when they magic can really begin.

I have gotten to a point where I actually feel EMPOWERED & MOTIVATED when I see others succeed. I absolutely LOVE seeing others, especially women, absolutely crushing it. It’s a form of motivation for myself & it lights a fire under me to continue working on myself and my own goals. 

This ultimately helps me feel better, more confident in myself because I know that if they can do it, so can I. You have to b e l i e v e in yourself!


At the end of the day, confidence is something that we all want. We all want to go out and live life to the absolute fullest. I got myself fired up writing this post & I hope you got fired up reading it!

YOU have the power inside of you to get the most out of life. Confidence isn’t something that only some people are lucky enough to have. Sometimes, it takes a lot of inner work & lifestyle changes to get to that point, but it’s something so worth it. 

You have this one life to live, don’t hold yourself back from getting the most out of it! ❤

xx,
-Jess

9 things to stop doing to get the most out of life

I’ve said this many times, but we all the the power inside of ourselves to get the most out of life & reach our fullest potential. While we all have this potential, we are often the ones holding our own selves back.

I’m very passionate about living life to the fullest because we all have this one life to live. We have this one life and we are the ones holding ourselves back from getting the most out of this life.

Over the last couple of years, I have come to realize all of the things that I am in control of & how I have been focusing on the wrong things. In this post, I am laying out 9 of the most prevalent things that I bet you are probably doing, that you should probably stop doing so you can start getting the most out of life. ❤

Making excuses.

We are constantly making excuses for ourselves, even when we don’t even notice it. Do you ever catch yourself saying things like:

  • “I don’t have time”
  • “I don’t have what it takes”
  • “I will never be able to be successful”
  • “I’m not pretty enough”
  • “I’m not good enough”
  • “Nothing ever works out for me”

Whether you want to believe it or not, those are all excuses. They are all excuses holding yourself back from living your life to the fullest. They are excuses that keep you right where you are. In order to get the most out of life, you have to get rid of those constant excuses for not showing up fully for yourself.

Try to catch yourself making these excuses. You are probably saying them so much that you just believe it and don’t even consider it to be an excuse. But, it is! Get rid of those excuses & start taking ACTION on your life & reaching those goals of yours!

Complaining all the time.

This is a big one and something that I think it really important to try to monitor in order to start getting the most out of life. Constantly complaining about every little inconvenience really trains your brain to go into this “woe-is-me” mentality & will also have you stressing out about things that really don’t need your energy. Once I started taking the time to create an awareness around all of the things I was complaining about throughout each day, it became really clear why I was feeling so frustrated all the time. These things are often not in our control & honestly, not worth getting all worked up about.

Really take the time to think about all the things that you are complaining about throughout the day. 

Things like,

  • Too many people at the grocery store
  • The person in front of you driving too slow
  • Food service is slow

There are just so many things that you are probably complaining about to yourself that you don’t even know about. But I think that it is really important to create an awareness around everything you are complaining about because it does start to weigh heavy on your subconscious. You start doing it automatically without even knowing that you are doing it and it’s going to start making you not feel so good about yourself. 

So, create an awareness around all the things that you catch yourself complaining about. Especially with what others are doing and create alternative perceptions. Even if the other person isn’t doing something for that reason, it really makes you feel so much better overall. 

This is definitely so much easier said than done, but creating the awareness is the first step!

Beating yourself up.

We are all the biggest bullies to ourselves. When something doesn’t go the way we expect it to, we get hard on ourselves. One thing that I urge you to try to do is to remember that you must not get hard on yourself during these times. Beating yourself up for whatever reason it may be will get you nowhere except keep you going even further downhill. 

I’ve noticed this to be especially prevalent in my early to mid-twenties and I think it’s pretty common around this age for most people. It’s the time in our lives when we are set free to really figure out who we are and what we are supposed to be doing with our lives. Every time we think we are getting closer to getting it figured out, something happens to throw us off track a little bit. 

When this started happening to me, I was thinking that I was the only one going through this. I just assumed that everyone else my age was getting things all figured out and they were happily progressing without any problems. When you think you’re the only one going through something, it’s very discouraging. 

Trust me, I know this very well. I spent about 3 years trying to find a job, getting another degree, revising my resume, countless applications & interviews and ended up getting fired from the job I finally got after just 5 weeks. Talk about discouraging! While it was frustrating and discouraging, I’ve come to realize that Getting Fired Was The Best Thing To Happen To Me!

The most important piece of advice that I received in terms of getting through this was to not beat myself up. If you can shift your perception on the situation to the best of your ability, you can see this in a whole new light.

Give yourself some grace here! If you want some extra tips, make sure you check out my blog on The Importance of Self-Care!

Avoiding facing your fears.

A lot of people don’t reach their full potential because they are letting fear win. They stay in their comfort zone forever because they think it’s better than what potentially could happen if they get uncomfy & take risks.

However, it is really important to understand that all of your dreams, success, best life is on the other side of that fear. It takes doing things that makes your heart feel like it’s going to beat out of your chest. It takes really stepping out of that comfort bubble, taking risks & doing things that truly scares you. If it scares you, you are probably on the right track.

What is something that you really want to do, but you know there is a possibility that it could take you to the next level?

Do that. Be okay with failing because that’s where growth happens.

Putting pressure on yourself to get everything done.

One of the most common questions that I get as a Life Coach is how to balance everything. How in the world are you supposed to get everything done in the day?!

The quick answer: You don’t. So try not to put the pressure on yourself to get all the things done. 

Don’t put the pressure on yourself to be a perfect parent, work 80hrs a week, cook 3 healthy meals a day, volunteer at all of your kids events, get in an hour an a half workout 5 times a week, have a solid social life, get 8 hours of sleep every night and be smiling all day everyday.

I teach creating a balanced lifestyle, but I don’t teach trying to balance every single little thing. Here’s the thing: I believe that there’s really only 3 things that you really want to balance at a time. How much better does 3 things sounds than ALLLL of the things?! So much better.. Not to mention more realistic and attainable. 

Don’t be afraid to ask for help for other things. Do you have a spouse that can help with meals and watching the kids? Can you get a meal delivery service for some of your meals during the week?

There are so many options to help you keep things under control. Don’t put the pressure on yourself to be perfect at balancing everything all the time. You are human. You have one life and you must live it to the fullest.

Also, you are doing a great job & deserve to be kind to yourself!

Saying mean things to yourself.

I saw a quote recently, I forget where & who said it but it has stuck with me and I think it is really important. It said something along the lines of:

“You talk to yourself the most. Make sure you are saying the right things.”

Inner dialogue is so important. 

We, especially us women are so hard on ourselves and so quick to beat ourselves up. Like complaining, your inner dialogue becomes automatic, but your subconscious always remembers. 

We are so quick to tear our bodies apart and tell ourselves how we have fallen short in different areas. We say things to ourselves that we would never say to someone else. 

As cliche as it sounds and as silly as it may sound, start paying attention to all the things that you say to yourself on a daily basis. You may be surprised by what you notice.

Living life based on what others want you to do.

As humans, we care a lot about what others think of us. It’s human nature because we literally need interaction and acceptance to survive. 

However, I’ve come to realize that it is really common for us to do things & live life based on what we think others want us to do. 

I wrote a post on Breaking Free From Society & Creating A Life You Love & I think you should check it out if this resonates with you. 

This is your life. You should live how YOU want to.

Comparing yourself to others/Getting jealous.

Comparing yourself to someone else is the fastest way to halt any possibility to get the most out of life. However, I understand that it is so much easier said than done to get rid of this comparison. 

Take yourself out of situations where you are going to compare yourself to others while you work on yourself. Once you take your power back from other people, that’s when the magic can really begin.

Avoiding doing things that you love.

Really sit and think about this for a moment. What are some things that you really love doing? What makes you really happy that you aren’t putting much- if any- attention to? 

This goes along with doing things based on what others think of you because you might be avoiding them because you are worried about what others may think of you. 

Seriously, sit down and really think about this. What do you really love that you aren’t doing right now? What makes you REALLY happy & feel alive?


Remember, this is YOUR life. Don’t hold yourself back. You are amazing & have so much to offer this world. Start living your life & go after your dreams. ❤

xx,
Jess

Join The Mindset Movement & Change Your Life

You deserve to get the most out of life & be authentically happy!

I am looking for women who want to completely transform how they show up for themselves in this beta test course at a very discounted price!

The information included in this course is exactly what I have done to create the transformation of my own life. Often, we put off taking care of ourselves & prioritizing ourselves because we perceive it as “not as important”.

I did the same things for years. 

I felt like I was constantly going in circles trying to figure out how to get one foot in front of the other.

What FINALLY stopped the cycle?

Slowing down & taking care of myself. 

What transformation did I start noticing?

  • I started seeing opportunities that I was unable to see before
  • I was able to see my “failures” as learning experiences & growth opportunities
  • My confidence skyrocketed
  • I started immediately achieving more than I did during years of neglecting taking care of myself

The information that I have outlined in this course is exactly what I did to see this transformation. 

Are you ready to start seeing the same transformation for your life?!

This course is for you if:

You are tired of…

  • Comparing yourself to others & getting frustrated
  • Making excuses & holding yourself back
  • Beating yourself up
  • Feeling like you are stagnant & just running in circles, not getting anywhere

My belief: how you feel about yourself, show up for yourself & what you choose to focus on determines what you get out of life. We all have the power within ourselves to get the most out of life, but we are often the ones holding ourselves back.

I believe the base foundation to getting the most out of life starts from within. It starts with challenging yourself & believing in yourself.

Do you…

  • Tend to focus on the things that you don’t like about yourself?
  • Want to start feeling happy & comfortable in your own skin?
  • Stop being mean to yourself?
  • Neglect self care & prioritize yourself because you “don’t have time”?
  • Have trouble maintaining healthy habits?
  • Find yourself comparing yourself to others & getting jealous?
  • Have trouble believing in yourself?
  • Struggle with confidence?

How would it feel to…

  • Finally love yourself for who you really are?
  • Stop letting fear hold you back?
  • Create an inner dialogue that makes you feel empowered?
  • Love yourself & your life, simply just by being you?
  • Start seeing yourself positively & love yourself unconditionally?
  • Start creating healthy habits that work?
  • Start prioritizing yourself?
  • Live life the way you want to?
  • Start doing things that makes you happy?
  • Stop living based on other people’s standards?
  • Start gaining confidence to face your fears & start taking action?
  • Get over your fears?
  • Start working towards big goals because you believe you have what it takes?
  • Stop focusing on the negatives all the tie so you can start seeing the opportunities right in front of you?
  • Feel like you are always in control
  • Have a plan & know what to do, even when you start falling off track
  • Stop the cycle of falling off track & having to work to get back on track?

So that you can start feeling in control of your life & confident in your own skin!

If you ever find yourself saying…

  • “I don’t have time”
  • “I don’t have what it takes”
  • “I will never be able to be successful”
  • “I’m not pretty enough”
  • “I’m not good enough”
  • “Nothing ever works out for me”

If you resonated with any of those things, this course was made specifically for you!

About Jessie

I’m Jessie & I am all about inspiring women to love themselves, believe in themselves & start living life the way THEY want to. 

I studied psychology in college, struggled with confidence myself & went through my own life changing transformation. I am now on a mission to help other women experience the same transformation.

I remember feeling lost, confused, like a failure & that nothing was ever going to work out for me. I felt like I was running in circles getting nowhere. 

I have taken my degree in psychology, my own experiences, working with other women and developed a course to help dig deeper into who they are to start getting the most out of life.

You deserve to get the most out of life & be authentically happy!


This course is broken down into 3 parts:

WHAT YOU GET

OPTION 1:
FULL ACCESS

  • 9 video trainings
  • 9 homework assignments
  • 9 live Q&A sessions
  • 3 coaching calls
  • Group Voxer support
  • Lifetime access to the private Facebook group
  • Lifetime access to trainings & assignments


OPTION 2:
TRAININGS ONLY

  • 9 video trainings
  • 9 homework assignments
  • Completion of the course can be self paced if desired
  • Lifetime access to the private Facebook group
  • Lifetime access to trainings & assignments

COURSE BREAKDOWN

Begins August 3!

PART 1: SELF LOVE

The very first step includes digging deep into what you tell yourself & believe about yourself. It’s important to develop an awareness about your beliefs & create a solid foundation around what you do tell yourself & believe in yourself so the rest can start falling into place!

WEEK 1 (8/3-8/9): Creating an awareness of your inner dialogue & learn how what you say to yourself can be detrimental to what you get out of life.

WEEK 2 (8/10-8/16): Creating healthy habits around what works for you & develop a plan that fits your lifestyle/schedule.

WEEK 3 (8/17-8/23): Digging deeper into who you are, what makes you unique & how to start living your life the way you want to.

WEEK 4 (8/24- 8/30): COACHING CALLS

PART 2: CONFIDENCE

After doing the inner work around your beliefs about yourself, the next step is to start working on your confidence around your abilities to start taking action.

WEEK 5 (8/31-9/6): Understanding your fears & how they are holding you back from getting the most out of life.

WEEK 6 (9/7-9/13): Getting rid of comparison/jealously of others & challenging/debunking your limiting beliefs about yourself.

WEEK 7 (9/14-9/20): Start setting actionable goals that you can start working on immediately, develop of plan, start facing your fears & understand why you have what it takes to reach your goals.

WEEK 8 (9/21-9/27):  COACHING CALLS

PART 3: MINDSET

The third and final step is focusing on where you are focusing your emotional energy & creating a plan to make sure that you continue staying on track & moving forward, even when life throws you off!

WEEK 9 (9/28-10/4): Creating an awareness around what you focus on, complain about, understanding your emotional reactions & creating alternative perceptions.

WEEK 10 (10/5-10/11): How to start focusing on what you are in control of, rather than external things that are out of your control + understanding having a Stagnant Mindset vs. a Growth Mindset

WEEK 11 (10/12-10-18): Understanding your emotions & warning signs, how to remain in control + creating a plan of action moving forward so you are always prepared to take on anything that happens in life

WEEK 12 (10/19-10/25): COACHING CALLS


Are you ready to start taking ACTION & start seeing a transformation?!

PRICING

I am looking for women who want to completely transform how they show up for themselves in this beta test course at a very discounted price!

***This is the cheapest this course will ever be so make sure you take advantage of the transformation you can get with these prices!***

This is a $1000+ value, but I am offering this beta round for:

An open letter to my black friends, peers & the community

You’ve changed the world.

I have taken the last week to really listen to you. To try to educate myself better, listen deeply to your cries for help, your personal experiences, your worries and frustrations. 

What I’ve come to understand is that even though I’ve always loved you, cared about you and knew there was still racial injustice & knew police brutality was still an issue, I didn’t hear you as loud as I should have. 

I’ve allowed myself to hide in the safety & silence that comes with my white privilege. 

But look around,

You’ve changed the world.

You’ve brought 400+ cities across all 50 states and 13 other countries together. You’ve done something that nobody else has ever done. You’ve rewritten the history books.

You said enough is enough and you forced us into necessary discomfort. 

In recent years, I’ve come to understand to a certain extent that racial injustice and police brutality still exists. I understood & supported Colin Kaepernick taking a knee and I listened to your stories and personal experiences, but I didn’t do enough. I didn’t do enough because I didn’t know there was anything I could say or do, so I didn’t. 

We didn’t listen to all of your cries for help because we were stuck in the safety of our white privilege. We were stuck in our white privilege while you’ve been fighting this pandemic on a daily basis. No, not COVID-19. Racism. 

While we had the choice to stay silent, you didn’t have a choice because you were fighting and we didn’t listen. 

I made a Facebook post about my experience at a protest in Downtown Columbus on June 2. In one part I wrote:

We walked past all of the businesses that were boarded up from the broken glass that occurred Thursday night. You know what I saw when I saw those businesses boarded up?

Pain.

Pain, hurting, frustration, disappointment, from centuries of slavery, beatings, rape, innocent murders, racial injustice, tired of being silent, decades of broken promises and being unheard on the land that their ancestors built.

Did you listen when Colin Kaepernick took a knee?

If not, I bet you are listening now. I know I am. On a deeper level than I was before.

I’ve been guilty of saying, “I don’t see color!”, which is great, but that completely dismisses the fact that racism & brutality still exists and I (& the rest of the white community) have been silent. 

In another part of that Facebook post, I wrote:

We all sat on the grass and listened to stories of what this moment meant to them. Their voices were raspy & tired from their 6th night of protesting. While tired, they were energized from what this moment meant to them.

One of them said he talked to an older man that told him that he was passing on what he didn’t finish in the 60s.

THE SIXTIES AND WE ARE STILL DOING THE SAME THING IN 2020.

I have to be honest with you. Growing up, I thought everyone was treated equal. I thought everything was fixed during the Civil Rights Movement and there were only a handful of people who were still racist. But, I didn’t realize people really still experienced racism on a daily basis, I had no idea that this was still a systemic issue.

Hearing stories and how passionate and exhausted the community is from the lack of improvement in our society made me realize how serious this really is. 

In that Facebook post, I continued to say:

Right before we were getting ready to head back to the state house, they said to us “Listen, the same cops that were nice to us at the State House are knocking down those water stations now, ready to shoot us with tear gas and rubber bullets. We aren’t going to run away, we are going to link arms and walk through it together.”

So that’s what we did.

In that moment, I knew I was experiencing the most American thing I have ever experienced in my entire life. No, not any 4th of July fireworks show. No, it was walking linked arms, all races and ages, walking together towards a common goal.

Even though I was mentally preparing myself to get tear gassed and shot with rubber bullets, it was the safest I felt because I knew that even if one person got hurt, everyone would rush to their rescue.

You’ve knocked me- all of us- out of alignment. You forced all of us to be uncomfortable, and thank goodness you did. 

I know this is a hard time. I know it’s scary and frustrating, but I want you to know that I am proud of you. You have done something that nobody has ever done before and you have truly made all of us realize how serious this truly is.

Here are some things you have taught me:

  • Even though I love you & have always supported you, I haven’t done enough
  • That I have allowed myself to stay silent in my white privilege
  • The level of racism you still experience on a daily basis
  • What truly matters 

Look around you! You’ve changed the world. You’ve rewritten the history books.

This doesn’t stop here. A couple weeks of protests and a black picture isn’t enough and I understand that.

Moving forward, I promise to:

  • Continue educating myself
  • Do my best to educate others
  • Stand up to racism that I see online and in person
  • Stand up to my racist family members
  • Continue donating to causes related to the black communities
  • Buying from black owned businesses
  • Listening to you

My actions and promises aren’t limited to this list, but it’s a start. I’m sorry I haven’t done enough before, but I promise that I will continue doing better.

I hear you. I love you. I’m proud of you. This is just the beginning.

You’ve changed the world. You’ve rewritten the history books.

9 Simple Tips to Improve Your Life

My belief: how you feel about yourself, show up for yourself & what you choose to focus on determines what you get out of life. We all have the power within ourselves to get the most out of life, but we are often the ones holding ourselves back.

I believe the base foundation to getting the most out of life starts from within. It starts with challenging yourself & believing in yourself.

I believe that we are the ones holding ourselves back and we have the control to shift how we show up for ourselves & truly love our life. At the end of the day, what is the point of life if you don’t love it?

We have one shot at this life. 
We are all so lucky to be here. 
We have the power inside of us to really make an impact on the world & live life the way WE want to. 

Doesn’t that sound amazing? 

In this post, I am sharing my 9 simple tips that you can start implementing TODAY to start working toward living your best life ❤ Let’s dig in!

Create healthy habits

The more you take care of yourself, the better you will feel. 

These habits might look different for different people, but some ideas include (definitely not limited to): 

  • Moving your body
  • Feeding your body healthy foods
  • Picking up a book instead of watching so much TV
  • Making it a goal to park further away in the parking lot so you can get in extra steps

When you take the time to engage in some simple habits, you are more likely to start feeling better about yourself. Incorporating simple healthy habits throughout your day can make a HUGE impact on how you feel overall. 

Sometimes, it can often cause a ripple effect. Meaning, one simple habit is likely to lead to another, and another, and another. 

CREATE helpful ROUTINES

Create a morning routine  

We’ve all heard all about how setting a solid morning routine is incredibly important for starting the day. I don’t believe there’s one “perfect” morning routine universal for everyone. What works really well for me might not work for you and vice versa and that’s OK! But, I do think it’s important for everyone to set one for themselves & test out different strategies to figure out what that ideal morning routine looks like. 

The thing about routines is that they change often. They change with us, when certain life shifts happen. For me, it’s changed many times over the years & especially with starting my own business working from home.

Personally, I’m a BIG morning person. I’m definitely one of those “annoying morning people” that people like to complain about. I just think mornings are so peaceful, especially early mornings. I love getting up early before the sun and taking my time to get ready for the day because how I spend my mornings definitely sets the tone for how the rest of the day is going to be. 

Create an evening routine

I talk about this importance of self care & creating a solid morning routine, but having a solid night routine is just as important. Your night routine is important because it allows you to prepare for the next day!

After some trial & error with my night routine, I have figured out a routine that works for me and makes sure that I am getting the sleep I need & preparation that I need.

Journal

I talk about journaling often, but I do because I wholeheartedly believe in it. I believe in the therapeutic nature of getting everything out of your head and onto paper.

Many success stories & successful people include journaling constantly to get everything out of their subconscious & work through what is going on. 

This can help with working through any limiting beliefs you might have, what is bothering you right now. It can help you have breakthroughs & “aha!” moments. 

If you are struggling with what to write about, I wrote a post on 50 Journal Prompts For Self Reflection & Self Discovery that you might find helpful! Inside that post is also a free printable guide that you can download! ❤

So, grab your journal and get to writing!

Express gratitude daily

Expressing gratitude daily is something that I recently started incorporating into my routine and I have seen a huge difference in how I feel overall. Often, we are so used to going about our days complaining about things that we don’t have in our lives & getting frustrated with the inconveniences. But, taking the time everyday to list 3-5 things that you are thankful for can change your entire perception of what is going on.

When you start shifting your mindset & the perception around what you are focusing on, it will seriously change how you show up for yourself everyday.

I don’t just mean express the same obvious things every day- like your parents, friends, etc. Which are all great to be grateful for, but I mean challenging yourself to take the time to show gratitude for simply being alive, your healthy body, having access to clean water, the sun coming up this morning, even all of the road blocks & learning experiences. 

I personally love The Five Minute Journal!

I love this journal because it’s quick & gets right to the point. I’ve been using this journal for a couple years now and it’s really good for getting you in the habit of expressing gratitude.

You have prompts to write about at the start of the day and a reflection to do at the end of the day. The page starts off with a quote or a “weekly challenge”, followed by having you list 3 things you’re grateful for, 3 things that would make the day great and a daily affirmation.

Then, at the end of the day, you reflect on how the day went. Having you write about 3 things that went well and listing what would have made the day better. Even on those days that you feel didn’t go so well, this really helps to be able to find some positives in what you might think there aren’t any.

I love this journal & highly recommend you get your hands on it! ❤

Get rid of excuses

Ah, yes. Good ol’ excuses. We are constantly making excuses for ourselves, even when we don’t even notice it. 

  • “I don’t have time”
  • “I don’t have what it takes”
  • “I will never be able to be successful”
  • “I’m not pretty enough”
  • “I’m not good enough”
  • “Nothing ever works out for me”

Whether you want to believe it or not, those are all excuses. They are all excuses holding yourself back from living your life to the fullest. They are excuses that keep you right where you are.

In order to get the most out of life, you have to get rid of those constant excuses for not showing up fully for yourself.

Get rid of comparison to others

Comparing yourself to someone else is the fastest way to halt any possibility to get the most out of life. However, I understand that it is so much easier said than done to get rid of this comparison. 

Take yourself out of situations where you are going to compare yourself to others while you work on yourself. Once you can your power back from other people, that’s when they magic can really begin.

Face your fears

A lot of people don’t reach their full potential because they are letting fear win. They stay in their comfort zone forever because they think it’s better than what potentially could happen if they get uncomfy.

What is something that you really want to do, but you know there is a possibility that it could take you to the next level?

Do that. Be okay with failing because that’s where growth happens. 

Set attainable goals

Setting goals is something that I have always struggled with because I wasn’t doing it right. I always focused on the big picture goal- the goal that may or may not be in my control. 

When you break your goals down into actionable steps that you can start taking, it’s so much easier to actually reach your goals and feel really good about it. 

What can you start doing TODAY to get you to that goal?

Pay attention to what you focus on

PROTECT YOUR ENERGY! Create an awareness around where you are choosing to place your energy. Why are you focusing on that particular thing? Is it helpful? Does it make you feel good or does it make you feel icky?

Mindset & perception are both really important in living your best life. Protect your energy & start creating an awareness around where you are focusing your energy. 

You will probably be really surprised how much you are placing your energy in unhelpful places. 


YOU have the power inside of yourself to get the most out of this life. 
YOU deserve it, babe ❤ I hope you found this to be helpful!

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xx,
Jess