My 10 Tips For Beating Bloat & Getting Back On Track

Have you ever come out of a weekend or a vacation after indulging in sweets, salty food, and even alcohol and feel gross? Or have just felt like you’ve been in a slump recently and need to get back on track? Yep, me too. Very often actually. 

Now, I’m not an expert (or trained) in digestive health, whatsoever, but over the years I have been able to learn a couple tips and tricks that have helped me when I am feeling bloated after indulging a little too much.

The tips that I’m sharing in this post are exactly what I did to lose the bloat around my body in just a couple of weeks.

Trust me, I know that I don’t necessarily think that I looked “bad“, but I knew that there were some areas that could use some adjustments in my lifestyle. You might also not be able to see a noticeable difference between the two pictures. But, I’ve actually been able to lose 6+ inches around my body in just 2 months. I even lost about 3 inches around my body in one week by implementing the tips I’m sharing in this post.

This post is absolutely perfect for you if you are like me & constantly find yourself going downhill after you indulge and can’t seem to get yourself back on track, for good. Trust me, we’ve all been there and it’s an incredibly frustrating path to be on. 

After years of trial & error and struggling to figure out what will help me, I’ve finally discovered some really helpful tips and secrets that have ultimately helped me stop the seemingly never ending cycle.

Let me let you in on some of those secrets that have helped me! 

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

I talk about this a lot, but only because I think it’s really important. I have a long track record of getting really mad at myself for having slip ups and indulging “too much”. 

But, let me ask you, has beating yourself up actually helped you get back on track? Or did it put you even further downhill?

For me, beating myself up always pushes me further away from my goal. Inner dialogue is so so SOOO important! Did I mention it’s REALLY important??? What you tell yourself becomes your reality. 

So, if you slip up over the weekend, if you eat too many sweet treats around the holidays, or if you just indulged because you just felt like it, give yourself some grace here. Life is about enjoying yourself and your time on earth. There’s nothing wrong with a little indulgence. 

Tell yourself that you deserved the indulgence and you are ready to get back to your goals! Trust me, nothing productive comes from beating yourself up.

In the pictures I shared above, I had spent the last couple months indulging in Halloween candy and Christmas cookies. Honestly, it made me happy in the moment and I thoroughly enjoyed everything that I indulged in. I let myself enjoy it & when it was all over, I was ready to get back on track.

The simple shift in my mindset and how I approached the situation has been the key to making sure I stay on track. The slip ups in the past have been due mainly to me beating myself up and getting mad for indulging and just enjoying life. Letting the past be in the past and continuing to move forward has been a major key to being able to stay consistent in this lifestyle.

Drink LOTS of water

I hired a wellness & fitness coach a couple years ago and I still remember to this day how much she preaches: DO NOT fall for the “cleanse tea” scam. There is no secret (& not to mention- expen$ive) cleanses. The companies that talk about how they have the secret cleanse to help you lose all this weight, is absolutely f a l s e .

Seriously, good to know!

The best cleanse there is? Our good ole pal H2O. Drinking lots of water is incredibly important as it is, but increasing your water intake when you are feeling bloated will help flush everything out! I try to get in around 100 oz- 1 gallon of water per day. Have you ever tracked how many ounces of water you are drinking per day? When I first started tracking this, I realized that I was only getting around 40 ounces of water per day.

Simply just increasing your water intake will show some major benefits- just be prepared to head to the bathroom A LOT. When I first started increasing my water intake, I was in the bathroom like every half an hour, but let me tell you, it is so worth it!

I now make sure that I drink 16oz-24oz of water right when I get up because when you think about it, your body is in deprivation for how many hours you were asleep. So, you need to make sure that you are getting in water right away!

Not only have I noticed a difference in reducing my bloating, but I have less headaches & more energy as a result.

Get to sippin’!

Get sweaty

OK- so I’m not saying spend 2 hours a day at the gym on the treadmill. But, getting yourself to the gym and increasing cardio really helps! I actually continued to go to the gym, but it’s very important to make sure that you are continuing to keep going, rather than making excuses to fall off.

This also goes back to what I mentioned about not beating yourself up- make sure you are doing this out of self-love and not self-hate. Put in your headphones, put on an upbeat song, work off anything that is bothering you & continue to remind yourself how much your love yourself & your body.

PLEASE do not do this out of self-hate! Don’t spend hours on the treadmill trying to punish yourself for making unhealthy decisions!

I talk more about my fitness journey in these posts:
How/ Why I Go To The Gym At 5AM
3 Tips for Early Morning Workouts
My Fitness Journey | Choosing Yourself First

Eat lots of fresh veggies

In general, adding fresh veggies to your diet is always a good practice. I’ve noticed that just by replacing a snack that I usually have with carrots & celery really helps when I’m feeling bloated. Instead of reaching for some trail mix or chips & salsa, I try to gather some veggies in a bowl & snack on that instead.

I also really like to cook with veggies! I try to add in some bell peppers, onion, spinach, even celery when I’m cooking. I’m not saying to only snack on fresh veggies, but it’s always good practice to add them into your day when you can! Some simple adjustments can go a long way.

Reduce amount of refined carbs

I’m not saying removed carbs from your diet- AT ALL. Carbohydrates are an essential macronutrient that we all need.

I just know that when I overindulged, it’s usually in spaghetti, pizza, ice cream, etc. So, I try to pack my diet with lots of lean meats & veggies, rather than those foods high in refined carbs.

Especially when I came out of the holidays feeling all bloated, I tried not to make pasta or pizza for dinner. Especially since I have a gluten intolerance, I wanted to make sure that I let my body reset and get back to normal.

I didn’t completely cut it out, but I was definitely cognizant about making sure that I gave my body a break from these refined carbs.

Reduce sugar

Suga, suga. I love sugar.

Sweets are definitely my downfall. If there’s candy around, especially Kit Kats, I can’t help myself. During Halloween, I always have a hard time staying away from allllll of the candy. 

Also, ice cream. I freaking LOVE ice cream. 

Of course, these foods are PACKED full of sugar. Once all of the candy and Christmas cookies were gone, I made it an effort to make sure that those sweets were not in my apartment. I admit, I love having those red & green M&Ms in a cute container on my kitchen counter around the holidays, but it’s so hard not to resist a handful whenever I walk by it.

So, once they were all gone, I made sure not to have candies in my apartment after the holidays. Simply just not having them around makes it so much easier because they are simply not around. I don’t even want to know how much sugar I had October-December, but not having those sweets around definitely helped in making sure that I am keeping my sugar intake under control.

Don’t try to go into a food deprivation

While it’s a good idea to eat lots of veggies, reduce carbs & sugar intake, don’t try to force yourself into a food deprivation. Trust me, it doesn’t work. I’ve tried. Many, many times before. 

“I’m only going to eat healthy food!”

Deprivation doesn’t work because your body needs that food. When you crave something, it’s your brain telling your body that it needs what that food has. So, when you deprive yourself of something, your brain will CRAVE that particular food and you are more likely to overindulge. Thus, making the frustrating cycle repeat.

I remember one time I tried to make myself eat only healthy food and after a couple days, I proceeded to down an entire bag of sun chips in one sitting. 

Don’t deprive yourself! It just simply doesn’t work.

Moderation is absolutely key here. I wanted to let you know that in the last couple weeks that I lost 6 inches, I was still eating a bowl of ice cream some nights. I’ve been making sure not to scoop half a gallon into a bowl, but a couple scoops has been good enough for me. In letting myself indulge in moderation, it has helped curb my cravings SIGNIFICANTLY. There was even one night when my boyfriend and I were craving Wendy’s frosties, so we went to Wendy’s and got a small frosty.

Deprivation is not the answer, moderation is.

Take a break from alcohol

Don’t get me wrong, ya girl loves her glass(es) of Pinot Grigio. But, reducing alcohol saves lots of unnecessary calories from your diet. Also, I really don’t like waking up the next day feeling hung over & gross. Plus, when you drink, you tend to snack in unhealthy food. It’s a double whammy.

But, not just binge drinking, but even just having a glass in the evening with dinner. I got in the habit of this, especially around the holidays when wine is everywhereeee.

Now, I try to limit myself to just drinking alcohol on the weekend and limiting myself to just a couple of glasses, or none at all. You have no idea how much better you feel when you don’t drink excessively. So, reducing alcohol intake also has so many incredible benefits.

Take a shot of apple cider vinegar

I’m going to be honest here, apple cider vinegar is absolutely disgusting. But, there are so many digestive benefits to it. I mix a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar with a little bit of water and lemon and take it like a shot. I call this my “health shot”.

I would test out what works best for you with apple cider vinegar. I tried to make it a daily habit to take a shot of apple cider vinegar, but it actually made my stomach really upset after doing it every day for a full week.

Maybe do a little research and see what your options are. I know some people mix it in their hot tea and other things.  But, this is definitely a good thing to try when you are trying to get yourself back on track.

Get right back into your routine

In the past, I’ve found myself so frustrated with myself for indulging, that I’ve found myself neglecting the gym & healthy habits altogether. When I think about this now, that mindset is just simply not productive. This goes back to my first tip- don’t beat yourself up. Like I’ve mentioned many times, truly believe that it all starts with your mindset.

I’ve had people ask me how I’ve been able to stick with my fitness goals for so long & this is exactly it. I started just getting right back into my routine without even thinking about it. I don’t beat myself up anymore. I let myself indulge when I want to, wake up the next morning and get right back into it. The simple adjustment in how I perceive the situation has completely shifted how I’ve been able to stick with my goals.

Have I fallen off a couple time? Yes! Of course, I’m human. We’re all human here. I technically “fell off” around the holidays, but I was able to get myself back on track so easily because of this mindset.

We spend so much time getting mad at ourselves for living life & indulging that we don’t even realize that we can simply just let it be and move on. We are all human. We NEED those times to just live our lives and enjoy the simple pleasures. 

You are in control of letting bad habits become bad habits. You ate too many slices of pizza and a bowl of ice cream? Fine. Let it be. You still planned on getting to the gym tomorrow, so get up and go like usual. 

Can you tell that I’m really big into mindset? I am because I truly believe that everything, I mean everything starts with our mindset. Our perception & what we tell ourselves has a direct impact on how we feel and how we show up for ourselves.

It all starts with doing things out of self-love. I have never been able to stick to a plan when I’m doing it out of self-hate. We must love ourselves & love our bodies.


Want some extra support? I’m running a 5-Day Love Your Body Challenge in my Facebook Group March 23-27!

In this challenge, I will be doing a live training Monday-Friday with tips that I have used to completely transform my mindset & my lifestyle.

>> HOW HAVE I BEEN ABLE TO SHIFT MY MINDSET TO REACH MY GOALS?
>> HOW HAVE I LEARNED HOW TO LOVE MY BODY?
>> WHAT LIFESTYLE CHANGES HAVE I MADE?
>> WHAT TIPS DO I HAVE FOR YOU?

I’m on a mission to help women love themselves, feel confident in their bodies and start getting the most out of life. You want to join this FREE challenge to learn all of my secrets!

Feel free to join if you would like. I would love to help you love yourself & your body. You deserve to be happy & confident!

xx

LOVE YOUR BODY CHALLENGE

Over the last couple years, I’ve had a handful of women reach out to me asking how I’ve been able to transform my life with fitness & what tips I have for reaching fitness goals.

Now, I’m not a fitness coach, but I do think that I have a handful of tips that could be useful for anyone for transforming how they show up for themselves & love themselves.

HOW HAVE I BEEN ABLE TO SHIFT MY MINDSET TO REACH MY GOALS?
HOW HAVE I LEARNED HOW TO LOVE MY BODY?
WHAT LIFESTYLE CHANGES HAVE I MADE?
WHAT TIPS DO I HAVE FOR YOU?

I am on a mission to help as many women as possible shift their mindset, gain confidence and start living their life to the fullest. The tips I’m sharing in this challenge are exactly what I’ve used to completely change the trajectory & mindset around how I approach fitness, & life in general.

March 23-March 27, I’m going to be doing a Love Your Body Challenge inside my Facebook group!

WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THE CHALLENGE

5 LIVE VIDEO TRAININGS MONDAY-FRIDAY
1 TOPIC PER DAY
1 ASSIGNMENT TO COMPLETE PER DAY

You deserve to be confident in your own skin & love everything about yourself! I want to help YOU shift your mindset and start making choices because you love yourself & your body, not out of hate.

Check out these other posts on my fitness journey:
How/ Why I Go To The Gym At 5AM
3 Tips for Early Morning Workouts
My Fitness Journey | Choosing Yourself First

If you are ready to transform your lifestyle, shift your mindset and really start getting the most out of life, join me in this challenge to loving yourself unconditionally. ❤

Click”Join The Challenge” to join my Facebook group & this transformative experience!

See you there!

xx

My Honest FabFitFun Review

Here’s the thing…I hate shopping. Like, I really hate it. I don’t know what it is, but shopping just causes me so much stress. My mom doesn’t even want to go shopping with me because I used to get unpleasant during shopping trips.

There’s about 2-5 times a year when I get in the mood to go shopping, other than that I just try to avoid it. I don’t see the point in spending the money to get new things when I still have items that work perfectly fine. I also don’t like spending money, so there’s that. 

But, I also like getting nice things. I like to splurge sometimes and indulge in nice things every once in a while. But even when I do, I don’t get myself really nice things. 

I had been eyeing FabFitFun for a while because I thought their concept was intriguing. I spent some time watching unboxing videos and reading reviews about the items that come in the box and I finally gave in and signed up November 2016. I wanted to see what all of the hype was about and see if it was worth it.

Items I’m wearing from FabFitFun: sweater poncho, blue light glasses, necklace, bracelet

Let’s just say it’s been 3+ years and I am still a loyal customer! These boxes are amazing and are perfect for me since I don’t like to go shopping and spend a lot of money on myself. 

Not to mention the boxes are always very pretty & my Kip approves!

What is FabFitFun?

If you are unfamiliar with FabFitFun, no worries- I will explain! 

FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box filled with 8 full sized products for beauty, fashion, fitness, home decor, etc. 

The price? $49.99 per box for seasonal members or a yearly payment of $179.99 upfront for all 4 boxes for the year (you actually save $20 with this option!).

Inside these boxes are $300-$400 worth of products that you paid $49.99 for. Often, there are products in the box that are retailed at the price you paid for the entire box. 

What I love is that I get to splurge on myself. Splurge on nice, quality products that I would never purchase if they weren’t included in the box. 

Here are some of my favorite things about FabFitFun!

Ability to customize your box

The downside to seasonal boxes, is that you don’t get to choose what you get in your box. However, FabFitFun does give you about 4 product options to choose from so you are more likely to get what you want! 

Discounted Add-Ons

Another cool feature is they have what they call Add-Ons where you can shop other products at a discount up to 70% off! You just add the items to your cart and the items ships with your box.

Gifts for Loved Ones

Another great perk of FabFitFun is that the products included in the boxes are high quality and make for great gifts for loved ones. There have been a handful of items that I received that I ended up giving to my mom or someone else that would find more use for them. 

The Add-Ons are another great way to purchase gifts for loved ones. This past winter, I did a majority of my Christmas shopping in their Add-Ons. I was able to get my mom a nice spa set and even got my boyfriend an indoor grill that he absolutely loves! Not to mention these gifts are highly discounted so you get to give quality products to your loved ones at a discounted price! It’s a win-win!

FFF TV

A cool feature on their website that they have what they call FFF TV where they have all kinds of different videos from women they partner with! There are different recipes, workouts, lifestyle tips and information on the current box and the products included.

I’ve made several of the recipes and they are so good and also healthy food!

They Partner with Awesome Influential Women & Organizations 

FabFitFun is all about highlighting influential women who are making an impact on the world. I love reading the various stories about the women they highlight in each box. It always makes me feel empowered and motivated to keep going and keep working towards my own goals of making an impact. 


Here is a sneak peak into items I’ve received in the boxes!

SKINCARE/BEAUTY

I have received so many skincare items in my FabFitFun boxes! From face masks, scrubs, even lip & foot masks!

One of my favorite items I’ve received is this FOREO LUNA fofo. You connect it to an app, it calculates your oil levels and the vibration helps get deeper into pores. I started using this every night with my night time face cleanser & I have been able to notice a huge difference!

Retail price: $89 (almost double what I paid for the entire box!)

More beauty item including face primer, bronzing oil, goat milk face moisturizer & charcoal teeth whitening.

I’ve also got body lotion, oils & nail polish.

HAIRCARE

So much hair care products! I honestly can’t remember the last time I bought myself hair products because FabFitFun covers it all for me!

I’ve even gotten 2 really nice hair straighteners! These are definitely the best quality straighteners that I’ve ever had. I usually just get cheap straighteners from the drug store, so it’s nice to be able to have good quality straighteners that I didn’t even have to pay full price for!

MAKEUP

So many quality makeup items! I’ve gotten a highlight & bronzer pallete from Tartiest, lipsticks, eye shadow pallet, eyeliner, highlighter pencil.

This tarte tartiest PRO glow highlight & contour palette has gotten a lot of use as you can tell! It comes with 4 different highlight shades & 2 bronzers.

Retail price: $45

BATH/SHOWER

I personally loooove any kind of self-care, so any shower/pampering items that I can get my hands on I’m all game for! (You can read more about my thoughts on The Importance Of Self-Care & how much I truly value it!) In these boxes, I have gotten a couple really nice body scrubs and shower gels that really helps amp up my self-care routine!

I even got a band.do bluetooth shower speaker which I absolutely LOVE! My boyfriend loves it too & gets to use it everyday as well- it’s a win-win!

Retail price: $30

Who doesn’t want to start their day with an in-shower jam session?!

FASHION

These boxes always have 1 fashion piece which I always find very useful! Some of these items include hats & gloves in the winter boxes that are very useful during the winter months here in the midwest!

Also, suuuuper comfty blanket scarves! They care very cute & also warm during those frigid winter evenings!

Also, a cute umbrella and Rachel Pally Reversible Clutch for spring time!

Rachel Pally Reversible Clutch Retail price: $60

Even this cute bathrobe that I absolutely LOVE! It’s super cute & I love throwing it on when I’m getting ready for the day in the morning. You can read more about my My Morning Routine As A Young Entrepreneur Working From Home for more on how I spend my morning for productivity & focus!

Retail price: $84

I got this really nice tote that I use to carry all of my work items! It’s nice to have a nice bag to carry all of my items in to meetings!

Retail price: $128 (almost what I pay for an entire YEAR of boxes!)

JEWELRY/ACCESSORIES

I have received several cute necklaces in some of the boxes! Also, a bracelet & ear crawlers. They are always a nice addition to any outfit!

To have a nice place to store the jewelry on when I’m not wearing them, I’ve even received 2 jewelry holders!

FITNESS

Who doesn’t love fitness items to make your workout even more exciting?! I absolutely love the rollers I’ve received in the boxes to roll out my sore muscles, as well as bands to help me stretch.

I even got my gym bag in a FabFitFun box! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had women come up to me at the gym to ask where I got it from because it is so cute!

Retail price: $59

WORK/ORGANIZATION

You not only get beauty items in these boxes, but you can even get items to help you stay nice & organized! Especially since I have my own business & work from home, I absolutely love that I have been able to receive items through FabFitFun that allow me to stay nice & organized!

Since I spend most of my day staring straight at a computer, I had been thinking I should invest in some blue light glasses. I was so happy when I was able to get them through FabFitFun, because I was able to get a quality pair of glasses that I probably need and didn’t have to pay full price for. I am even wearing these glasses right now while I am typing up this post!

Sweater poncho & necklace are also from FabFitFun!

HOME

I’ve also received items that I can use around the house and find get use for!

I wear the eye mask every single night & it has a ice pack inside to help with eye puffiness, which is suuuper nice!

I absolutely love The Five Minute Journal & have seen great progress in my mindset in writing in it for the last couple years. You can read more about my experiences with this in my post about The Power of Journaling!

This isn’t the best picture of this roundie, but this is cute to use when on a picnic during the spring & summer!

Retail price: $50

Also, a pouch that I always use to help me pack for vacation and nice coasters that I have placed all over the apartment!

Yes, even the blanket I used to take the pictures on came from FabFitFun! It’s a light blanket and perfect for spring/summer.

Also can’t forget about all of these kitchen items! I’ve gotten a mug, cheese board, copper measuring spoons, bowls & wine glasses!

The bowls are perfect for healthy snacking! There are 3 sizes and are perfect for holding dips, veggies and anything else you might be snacking on!

One of the best items that I’ve gotten through FabFitFun is this indoor grill! I gave it to my boyfriend for Christmas and he absolutely loves it! Since we live in the Midwest, we can’t grill during the winter months (we also can’t have grills on our patio-sigh), so this option is absolutely perfect for us!

How cool is it that I was able to get my boyfriend such an amazing gift through FabFitFun?!


As you can see, I’ve received so many really great items through FabFitFun! It really is the perfect option for me since I don’t like shopping, but enjoy getting quality items.

I am so excited to partner with FabFitFun to offer you 20% discount on your first box so you can start receiving these AMAZING items as well! To give you some perspective, that’s $300-$400 worth of amazing products for only $39.99!

READY TO GET YOUR HANDS ON THIS AMAZING OFFER?!

>> click here and use code FLOWERS for 20% off your first box!

I hope you enjoy these boxes as much as I do!!

xx

5 Steps For Getting Back On Track & Shifting Your Mindset

We’ve heard it all before, but I think that it’s something extremely important: progress is never in a straight line. We all want it to be, though. This is true and relevant in just about every aspect of life. We get in a good system, start losing weight, get our social lives together, whatever it may be, then something happens to throw us off track. 

It happens to all of us and it happens in just about every situation in life pretty much. It’s frustrating because you just want to keep moving forward. Things were going so well and you just want to keep going forward. Moving backwards, in any capacity and in any way is frustrating. It feels like you’re taking 2 steps forward and 1 step backwards.

I used to get really hard on myself when this happened. I would be in a good system, a good rhythm, my healthy habits were on point. Then, something would happen to get everything all messed up. I would get frustrated and mad at myself for letting myself get to that point. I would be mad for not being able to handle it and ultimately “letting myself go”. Then, this negative self-talk would spiral into more negative self-talk and I would begin going down a tunnel of neglecting my healthy habits and mental health more and more. 

It seems dramatic, but it’s very true and I know it’s prominent for a lot of people. We continue to let ourselves spiral out of control until we get tired of it and decide we want to make a change, then the cycle repeats. 

I felt inclined to write this post because I recently experienced this and I wanted to take the time to explain how I dealt with the stress. Over the years, I have learned a lot about how to handle these times in our lives and I think that what I have to say is important! It’s going to happen & it’s going to happen a lot, unfortunately. Whether we want to admit it or not, it’s inevitable.

I’ve learned that during these times when it feels like I’m “taking a step back”, it might actually be a good thing. I’ve learned that this might mean that I’m entering an important time for growth and a breakthrough is about to happen. It’s uncomfortable in the moment, but it’s necessary to take the next step forward. 

Life kind of makes you stop, so you can keep moving forward. Now, this might sound counter-intuitive, but stay with me here!

I’ve learned to listen to the universe. To pay attention to these times when I feel like I’m falling off track because, sometimes, it doesn’t really mean that I’m falling “off track”. It’s the universe telling me that I need to slow down. 

To be honest, life would be quite boring if things turned out exactly how we wanted all the time. If things worked out perfectly the first time and things continued in a straight line, there would be no growth, no learning experiences, no breakthroughs to celebrate. Times of reflection wouldn’t result in celebrating all of the hard work that was done and all the growth that happened. It sounds nice on paper, that everything will work out perfectly and all will end exactly how we expect. 

However, these times are frustrating. It’s extremely hard not to just want to throw in the towel and stay frustrated. But, I encourage you to keep an open mind here because shifting your perception can result in a life changing breakthrough.


Here are some important things to remember during these times:

Don’t be hard on yourself

The most important thing to remember is that you must not get hard on yourself during these times. Beating yourself up for “falling off track” will get you nowhere except keep you going even further downhill. 

I’ve noticed this to be especially prevalent in my early to mid-twenties and I think it’s pretty common around this age for most people. It’s the time in our lives when we are set free to really figure out who we are and what we are supposed to be doing with our lives. Every time we think we are getting closer to getting it figured out, something happens to throw us off track a little bit. 

When this started happening to me, I was thinking that I was the only one going through this. I just assumed that everyone else my age was getting things all figured out and they were happily progressing without any problems. When you think you’re the only one going through something, it’s very discouraging. 

Trust me, I know this very well. I spent about 3 years trying to find a job, getting another degree, revising my resume, countless applications & interviews and ended up getting fired from the job I finally got after just 5 weeks. Talk about discouraging! While it was frustrating and discouraging, I’ve come to realize that Getting Fired Was The Best Thing To Happen To Me!

The most important piece of advice that I received in terms of getting through this was to not beat myself up. If you can shift your perception on the situation to the best of your ability, you can see this in a whole new light.

Give yourself some grace here! If you want some extra tips, make sure you check out my blog on The Importance of Self-Care!

TAKE A BREAK

Seriously, take a break. Sometimes these times are meant to tell you that you need to slow down and give your mind & body some TLC. Make sure you listen to your body and rest if/when you need it.

For my most recent experience with falling off track, what helped the most was giving myself 3 full days off, away from work, completely focusing on myself. When I say a break, I mean a REAL break. I was trying to give myself breaks, but I was still constantly thinking about alllll the things I had to be doing or SHOULD be doing, scrolling on Pinterest trying to find some inspiration. I was resting my body, but I wasn’t letting my mind rest, which was making me even more exhausted.

Before you start rolling your eyes and thinking “OK Jessie, not everyone can just take 3 days off!“, hear me out. I know that giving yourself 3 days might seem out of reach or impossible, considering where you are in life. But, we all need to find time in our lives to give ourselves a break. We all need it and it might be just what you need to get on track. Maybe see if anyone can help you out for a day to get some things off your plate so you can rest. Giving yourself just one day completely to yourself could be the best thing you do right now!

journal

I’ve talked about the importance of journaling many times, but I find that it holds so many benefits. Especially if you feel like your progress has stopped, no matter what area, it’s always good practice to get everything out of your head and on to paper.

Sometimes, we have things going on in our subconscious that we don’t even know that’s weighing us down. Which is why I always think that journaling can be super powerful. Just getting all of your thoughts, everything that bothering you out of your head and on to paper might give you some clarity.

If you want to read more information on my transformative experiences with journaling, make sure you check out my recent post on The Power of Journaling!

Come up with an action plan

After you journal and get everything out of your head and on to paper, it can be easier to see what specifically needs to be done to keep moving forward. Think about what’s going on and why this “step back” is happening.

Get specific. Don’t just say “get back on track”. How exactly are you going to do it? Are you going to give yourself a mental health day? Brain dump everything that needs to be done? Drink more water?

Giving yourself realistic actionable goals is important to getting yourself back on track.

find the silver lining

I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. We are given certain “bumps” in our paths because we are supposed to go through a certain learning experience to prepare us for what’s to come.

Finding the silver lining in a situation like this, when we feel like we’ve taken a step backwards, is helpful in shifting our mindset. If you can conquer your mindset, you can conquer anything!

If you just rolled your eyes when you read that, try to hear me out because I think this is really important! If we’re constantly beating ourselves up about things and focusing on the negatives all the time, it’s going to be really difficult to get to where we want to be. Just hear me out & try to shift your perspective!

If you are still not convinced, I understand. Shifting your perception is hard and can take some work. But, I do want to share a resource that I’ve mentioned before that helped me shift my mindset.

It’s a book called, Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo!

This book revolves around the phrase, “Everything Is Figureoutable“. Meaning, no matter where you are in life, what situation you are currently in, no matter how sucky or sad, it is figureoutable. Marie Forleo helps you get out of your mental BS to start living your life. To help you get out of that mental funk that you’ve found yourself in and start taking actionable steps to changing your mindset.


I’ve noticed that each time I go through a period where I feel like I taking a step back & I see a regression in progress, I learn more about myself. I’ve been able to learn about what helps & what doesn’t and I’ve been able to make changes to make sure that I continue to keep moving forward.

Taking a step back, in any way, in any situation is frustrating. But, the way you perceive the situation can be a game changer!


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A lot can happen in just ONE YEAR!

OCTOBER 2018 ➡️ OCTOBER 2019

One year ago I was 25 years old, still living at my parents house, looking at my 2 degrees and wondering why the heck I couldn’t get my life together. There’s no hopeless, frustrating feeling like staring at your Master’s degree, applying to all the jobs, revising your resume a million times, connecting with & contacting all the recruiters you can find on LinkedIn while making a whopping $0/month income, feeling like you’re getting nowhere.

You can see the stress and frustration on my face and in my body language. I looked at this picture right after I took it and knew that I had to make some changes. All I knew to do at the time was continue working on myself. That meant dragging myself out of bed early in the morning to get in a sweaty workout.

It’s almost coming up on one year (October 31/Halloween to be exact) that my mom gave me the crazy idea to start my own business. I was already helping my dad with their social media, so why not turn it into a business and help other small businesses as well? The wheels started turning. I told myself that if I ended up creating this business, that I would find a way to use my platforms to spread as much positivity and inspiration as I possibly could. I had no idea where the business was going to take me, but I knew this was going to be the start of something so life changing if I stuck to it. 

But, all things, whether it’s exciting or not, comes with various road blocks and frustrations. Over the last year, I’ve been able to create and accomplish things that I never even knew were possible for me. 

One year ago, I was confused, frustrated, overwhelmed, stressed and just wanted to get this thing called life figured out already. I was getting discouraged by seeing everyone else on social media seemingly landing prestigious jobs, buying houses, getting married, etc etc. I fell deep into “woe is me”, because that’s all I knew to do at the time. “Why is everyone else getting everything figured out except me? What am I doing wrong?”

My mom giving me the idea to start my own business ultimately lead to me to understanding that I am in complete control of getting my life where I want it to be. I had no idea what that meant for me, but I knew that I had to put my complete trust in my faith and the universe to guide me to where I’m supposed to be.

It meant taking chances and risks along the way so I could learn and continue to grow. 

Nearly ONE YEAR later and I can honestly tell you that I am in a completely different place than I was last year. It all started with working from the inside out. Believing in myself that I can do the thing that I never put thought into because I didn’t think I was capable of it. 

I hired a coach, put in the work, made mistakes, had mental breakdowns, experienced anxiety like I’ve never experienced before, connected with a whole bunch of awesome women, made investments, hired more coaches, curled up in a ball, cried some more, attended webinars, took notes, wanted to just throw in the towel at times and kept going.

Oh, I also moved out of my parents house into an apartment that I never thought I’d be able to afford. 

In the last couple months, I’ve felt an active calling to do more with my business. I’ve never known what people meant when they say they felt “called to do this/that”. But now I know exactly what those people are talking about. But, I had no idea what the universe was trying to tell me to do or how to even figure out what the heck I was supposed to do with this feeling. 

I’ve gotten comfortable with my social media management business and my current clients, but I started feeling like I needed to do MORE

I didn’t know what to do to figure this out, so I started reading. 

I’ve never been a big reader because reading usually puts me to sleep (lol). But, I honestly felt an active motivation & energy to pick up all the books I could find and start reading. I’d heard people talk about the You Are A Badass series by Jen Sincero, Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo and Best Self : Be You, Only Better by Mike Bayer.

So, I went to Amazon and ordered 5 books. 

  1. You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero

2. You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth by Jen Sincero

3. You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable by Jen Sincero

4. Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

5. Best Self: Be You, Only Better by Mike Bayer

I also went to various Facebook groups and asked for recommendations of what to do. I learned about the power of meditation and manifestation. I journaled. A lot. I now have a new fire and understanding that I have all the power in the world to create something super powerful and fulfilling. 

I’ve hired another coach and I am happy to be in the process of building ANOTHER BUSINESS. 

I told myself that I would create a platform for change, no matter where the journey decided to take me. When you understand your worth and the power you have, you can truly do anything with your life that you want to. As long as you don’t give up on yourself

There was one part of You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero that really stuck out to me. 

“Can you imagine if your favorite musicians never let themselves make enough money to buy guitars or take lessons or hire producers or buy purple platforms boots and tight sparkly pants or pay thousands of dollars for studio time so they could record the songs that saved your ass in high school? Or if the people who build airplanes refused to make the money they need to pay for the research and the materials and the factories and engineers and the electricity and whatever plethora of other costly things that go into building the miraculous flying machines that allow us to travel the world, hang out on tropical beaches, and visit the people we love so dearly?”

Just let that sink in for a second because this was so important for me to hear, I’ve read that paragraph many, many times. She’s talking about making investments and finding the money, but this also means that by not following your dreams & goals might mean not making the difference that you were supposed to make. There have been so many people throughout history that have made some incredible difference in the world. A difference that we are all reaping the benefits of every single day. Who says that can’t be you or I as well?


Over the last year, I’ve learned that sometimes the journey doesn’t look the same for everyone. We are all experiencing difficulties in our lives and obstacles that we are maybe a little bit ashamed of. But, if we can find the fire inside of us, we can truly make the difference that we were put on this earth to make. 

I truly believe that there’s more to life than just going to school, working until retirement, living for Friday and dreading Monday. What’s the point of that? With this new business that I’m creating, I hope that I can help empower & inspire others to understand their worth & reach their full potential. Stay tuned for more info! ❤

xo

My Fitness Journey | Choosing Yourself First

“You haven’t been yourself in about 2-3 years” is what my mom said to me a year ago. We were having a conversation about possible depression and seeing my doctor to get on an antidepressant. I didn’t have health insurance at the time, so we were trying to figure out how I was going to pay for the doctor visit, as well as the medication. I was a mess, my mental health was a mess.

I had just started a job that I thought was my “big break” I was looking for to get my career off the ground. I was trying to convince myself that I enjoyed this job, but I really didn’t. I hated it and wasn’t good at it, at all. I would pack a gym bag to go to the gym right after work, but would talk myself out of actually going because I was “too tired”. I really felt like I wasn’t in control of anything. Although, I tried. I would go home after work and try to figure out how to be better at this job. When I was with my boyfriend, I was thinking of this job, I would get to the office early to try to prepare better for the day. I really wanted to make this work and was willing to do anything to make it happen. The stress of my career was literally taking control of everything.

On Friday July 6, 2018, I walked into work and was immediately brought into an office and was fired at 6:45am. I was half relieved because the job was horrible, but half confused because I had no idea what I was going to do next. How was I supposed to expect an employer to hire me when I had 3 jobs in 6 months & fired from the last one after 5 weeks? (Read more about this in Getting Fired Was The Best Thing to Happen to Me).

That same day just happened to be the Annual Memorial Golf Scramble I volunteer at yearly. I looked at the pictures we took and immediately realized that I needed to start taking care of myself better. I really didn’t “look” that bad, but I could tell how unhappy I was and crumbling under my own pressure to pull myself together & failing at every attempt. I was exhausted and putting on a smile to try to convince myself & others that I was completely fine. I wasn’t taking care of myself AT. ALL. I was lost & didn’t know what to do, or which way to go.


On Monday, July 9, 2018, I woke up without a job to go to for the first time in YEARS. It was a feeling that I was unsure to do with because I was exhausted, tired of trying to prove myself & my abilities to Corporate America. I knew I had a lot of potential, but was running out of ideas and options. I wasn’t sure where I was going to go next, but I knew I had to keep going in the only way I knew how- start taking care of myself and my mental health.

So, I went to the gym.

In making the decision to take actionable steps to take care of myself first, I have:
– learned how to love myself again
– worked out on a consistent schedule
– gained a healthy relationship with food
– started my own business
– started waking up with purpose every day
– moved out of my parents house (finally!)
– connected with amazing people
– become, really really happy
*I also no longer felt like I needed to be on an antidepressant.

NOW WHAT?

So, I woke up that day, exactly one year ago, and drug myself to the gym, with a commitment to myself. A commitment to turn this negative thing into a life changing experience, and that’s exactly what I did. I didn’t have a plan for my career, or anything for that matter. But, I knew that if I wanted anything to come together, I had to take control of the one thing I had complete control over: myself.

This moment was the first time since college that the chaos in my mind completely stopped. After everything, I had no desire to look for a job. It sounds weird, I had lost my trust in corporate jobs. I was frustrated at the fact that I had to prove myself to a company, leave a paycheck & benefits, for them to let me go whenever it was convenient for them.

I was lucky enough to still be living with my parents, so I had the security and stability to be able to take the time to figure things out. My dad had an (unpaid) opportunity for me at his startup business. I decided to give it a try, there was nothing I had to lose really. This was the time where I really had to understand that I had to take on every single opportunity that came my way. I really didn’t care what it was, I just had to take advantage of everything.

The crazy thing is, the moment I stopped actively looking for opportunities, is the exact time when opportunities started coming to me. I had gotten myself on a exercise routine, making better food choices, taking care of myself and that’s when things started falling into place. I would not change a single part of my journey because every experience had lead me to where I am today. Those experiences will still continue to evolve, and I can’t wait to see what comes next.

WHAT I’VE LEARNED

We are taught to work hard and keep working towards your goals, right? That’s exactly what I tried to do and I ended up running myself into the ground. It’s not my fault- I was just doing what I thought I needed to do. I was working hard towards a goal that wasn’t meant for me. I’m not the only one who has done this, right?

But, these moments are meant to happen and are necessary for success and growth. The best thing I did in my time of confusion, was to start taking care of myself. If you have chaos in your mind like I did, things will start coming together when you calm your mind. It sounds cliché, but it’s so true!

Take every situation, good or bad, as an opportunity to keep growing and getting better. I had always heard that those “bad” moments are a sign that an incredible breakthrough is about to happen. I wish there was a magic piece of advice that I could give. It’s hard and uncomfortable, but I promise something amazing is about to happen! I had absolutely no idea that getting fired would lead me to starting my own business and working from home. But, I’m so happy that it did. Read more about my experience in The Importance of Self-Care and My 8 Step Process to Overcoming Depression.

The best thing you can do in a time of chaos and confusion is start taking actionable steps towards taking care of yourself. I had no idea that stepping into the gym one year ago would be the start of the most amazing journey. I had no idea all of these amazing possibilities that are waiting for me and I know there’s so much more to come. 💗🙏🏼 I’m truly living my life- not just going through the motions of the day and hating everything & everybody.

3 Tips for Early Morning Workouts

If you are even considering making the decision to switch to early morning workouts, this is definitely the post for you!

IMG_3071I’ve already talked about how much I love going to the gym first thing in the morning, you can read all about in my post How/Why I go the the Gym at 5AM. Even though I’m a morning person, it wasn’t an easy transition. I used to go to the gym in the evenings, but have noticed myself having a hard time staying motivated throughout the day. I have seen a MASSIVE difference since making this adjustment & I want to share all of my secrets with YOU! Considering the fact that most people cringe at the thought of working out first thing in the morning, I thought I would lay out some of my main tips that helped me make this transition!

Here are my top 3 tips:

Adjust Your Mindset.


In order for you to be able to successfully make this transition, you have to adjust your mindset from how horribly early it is, to all the positive things it can do for your life. In order to even think about making the transition to early morning workouts, there has to be a reason for wanting to do it in the first place. If you truly think this is going to make a difference in your routine then this is the very first step. If you keep telling yourself how absolutely horrible & miserably early it is, you are not going to get very far.

Instead of thinking, “But it’s soooo early!”

Try focusing on the positive things:

“I get my workout done and out of the way before my day starts”

“I don’t have to worry about talking myself out of working out throughout the day”

“It frees up my evenings so I can do other things”

“I don’t have to worry about choosing between working out and hanging out with friends”

“I have more time in the evening to spend with my kids/family”

“The gym is emptier earlier in the morning”

I can think of a laundry list of potential benefits that could replace that one negative thing about waking up for an early morning workout. But, maybe working out later truly does benefit your schedule better, & that’s OK! But, in order to even begin a successful transition, you have to shift your mindset!

Ease into it.


OK, so you’ve shifted your mindset into thinking about all the potential positive benefits of an early morning workout. GREAT! But, now we have to think about the realities of our bodies having to adjust to this change. If your body is used to sleeping until 7:00am and working out at 5pm (or not working out at all), you can’t expect you will be able to be used to this change right away. You need to give your body time to adjust!

When I first made this transition, I was so tired on day 3, I felt drunk at work by 4:00pm and didn’t have the energy to workout for the rest of the week. My body wasn’t used to it yet & I was feeling the effects of not allowing myself to ease into this transition. So, here’s what I did to help get my body adjust:

  1. Not working out everyday. My goal was 3 early morning workouts a week at first. I did this for only a couple weeks. You have to remember, it takes 3 weeks to form a habit, so after a couple weeks, I started noticing myself gaining more energy & feeling less and less tired throughout the day.

If your schedule allows some flexibility, you can even try starting out doing a couple morning workouts and a couple evening workouts throughout the week. This is also a good idea to start getting your body adjusted to this change, then start dedicating more days to early morning workouts.

  1. I started out with light workouts. Instead of going right into heavy lifting and intense cardio right away, I started out light (Not that even felt like engaging in a rigorous workout in the beginning). So, I would focus more on stretching, light lifting, elliptical and walking on the treadmill for light cardio. I did that for several weeks until I felt my body get ready to do more challenging workouts. I listened to my body and adjusted as I went along. It’s important to not beat yourself up and get frustrated if you’re not working out as heavily as you’re used to. Give yourself time & your body will catch up! Stressing out about it & forcing your body to engage in activity that it’s not ready for is not going to help, trust me.

Actually get ready for the gym.


When I first started, I would sleep in my workout clothes and set my alarm for 10 minutes before I wanted to leave my house. When I did this, I still felt like a zombie when I got to the gym and didn’t have all that much energy.

Now, I have learned that waking up even earlier and giving my body time to wake up & get ready for the gym has helped SO MUCH. The hardest part is actually getting out of bed. By the time I’m done getting ready for the gym, my body is awake and alert and ready to go. This is what I do:

-Set an alarm on the other side of the room so I HAVE to get out of bed

-Drink 8-16oz of cold water

-Make my bed

-Get dressed

-Wash my face with cold water

-Brush my teeth

-Make myself my favorite preworkout snack

-Out the door

Actually getting your body moving & giving it time to wake up is SO HELPFUL! It makes a huge difference not showing up to the gym feeling like a zombie!


There ya go, my top 3 tips for early morning workouts. The most important thing is to do what works best for you. Experiment with a routine. I do early morning workouts Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday. I sleep in on Wednesday’s & go to hot yoga at 7pm. It’s what I have found to work best for me, but that doesn’t mean it will work for anyone else. Like I said, it’s important to make sure you are finding a routine that is best for YOU!

If afternoon/evening workouts make more sense for you, then that’s OK too! Maybe you’re a night owl & would prefer to go to the gym at 10pm, that’s OK too! But, if you truly think early morning workouts would be beneficial to you & your routine, then give my tips a try! This has seriously worked wonders for me and I hope it helps you too!

Please let me know if you found this helpful at all! I would love to hear any and all feedback! 🙂

- Blissfully Jess2