Tips For When You’re Not Feeling Motivated

Not feeling motivated is REAL and it is FRUSTRATING! Knowing you have a lot to do but just can’t seem to get yourself to get it done can be just incredibly frustrating. But, what I’m learning is there’s no such thing as feeling motivated all.the.time. Even though it’s frustrating, I’m starting to learn what I can do to help myself work through feeling unmotivated. 

Below I have listed a couple of things that I have found to be helpful during the times that I don’t feel motivated to get work done. These are just little things that work for me, and don’t necessarily mean they will be helpful for anyone else. But, they might be worth a try if you are struggling and don’t know what to do, like I feel sometimes.

The main thing to understand is that you have to know yourself and what works best for you. What works for me, might not work for you and vice versa. You might work well under pressure, but I tend to crumble under pressure. These items might not work for you based on your personality and what works best for you.


Not force myself to try to get something done.

Especially if I was planning on writing a blog post or create content, I can’t force myself to be creative. Trying to force myself just makes me even more frustrated and feeling burnt out. So, this might mean holding off on that task or taking a step back for a little bit. For some people, they strive on pressure, but for me, I don’t work well AT.ALL. So, I can’t put that kind of pressure on myself and force myself because it just doesn’t work for me.

Journal/write down what’s on my mind.

Sometimes I can’t get something done because I have a lot on my mind. Journaling about what’s going on in my mind helps me get it out and clear my mind. Doing this sometimes also helps me come up with ideas that maybe I want to blog about or topics that I want to research more. It’s important to listen to your mind and your body and to be able to give it what it needs at that time. There’s nothing wrong with taking the time to journal to help you get everything out. I notice this to be prevalent if I’m really stressed about something, if I got into an argument, received some bad news, or even if I just need figured out what is going on in my mind. You would be very surprised what kinds of things come to surface when you journal. Things that you would not even expect. But, it might be exactly what you need to give you that motivation that you need to keep going and get work done like you wanted to.  

Going on a walk or just getting outside.

Sometimes just leaving the environment and getting outside helps. Like I mentioned above, just sitting at my desk trying to force myself to be creative and get something done doesn’t help me. So, stepping away and getting some fresh air sometime helps to at least settle my mind down a little bit. 

Giving myself the day off.

Feeling unmotivated can sometimes be a sign that your body is telling you something. That you need to take a break and rest. I’m a very emotional person. So, when I receive unexpected sad news, it can hard to get myself to concentrate. During these times I know I just need to give myself- my mind and body an break. It can also mean that I’ve been overworking myself and my mind a little bit too much and I need to sleep. So, I’ll let myself sleep in or lay down for an afternoon nap. There’s nothing wrong with giving yourself a personal/mental health day if you need to. I think that sometimes we think that we need to force ourselves to work during difficult times and try to work through these times when we really just need to take some time off. Listen to your mind & body and give yourself permission to take a day off if you need to. You might feel like you are going into the next day feeling more refreshed, relaxed and motivated than if you tried to force yourself to try to work.

Go to Pinterest & YouTube for inspiration.

I feel like I say this in every post, but it has helped me out so much. There’s been times when I spent an hour each day for a week or 2 watching YouTube videos of people who I look up to and get ideas and motivation from them. If I get a “light bulb” to go off in my head, I’ll write it down and what comes from it. Pinterest is also a good place to look because it is filled with people who have all kinds of ideas to try out! It’s helpful to learn from others who have done what you’re doing before and they might have ideas that you might not of thought about before. This doesn’t mean taking their ideas, but you never know what kind of “light bulb” moment you might have!

Brain dumping everything that I want to get done.

There’s been times when I am feeling like I have so much to do but just don’t know where to start. So, I’ll sit down and brain dump everything that I feel like I need to get done. There’s been times when I do this and realize that I’ve been overwhelmed for no reason. From there I’ll try to break down the tasks and come up with a reasonable plan for getting them done. This often mean breaking it down into work, getting a little bit done at a time. When I’m feeling unmotivated, I try to start with the “easy” tasks because that sometimes leads to getting more ideas and leads me to getting even more work done than I originally anticipated. If I try to start with harder, more time consuming tasks, I know that I just won’t get anything done. But, if I start small, I often find myself getting more and more motivated and gaining more and more ideas. 


It’s a process for sure and not feeling motivated is very frustrating to deal with, especially when you feel like you have so much to do and just want to be productive. For me, I’ve learned that I’ll get an idea and have all of this motivation, work myself to exhaustion then feel burnt out for a couple days. Then I have to figure out how to get motivated again. I’ve done this many times because I feel like I need to take advantage of all the motivation that I have. But, that’s just not a feasible way to go about it. We all need breaks and we need to make sure that we are being cautious of our brain power, our bodies and step away and take breaks!

What I Learned About Adjusting To Change

If you are anything like me, change- whether it’s exciting or not- comes with an adjustment period. I’m very routine-oriented. I rely very heavily on my daily routines & when it’s disrupted in some way, I feel kind of all off-centered. Even if I’m doing the same routine in a different place, the feeling is different and it comes with a new experience that I have to adjust to. Even if it’s something exciting, that I’ve been waiting so long for and overly excited about. For me, all changes come with some form of a transition period.


My daily routine has been disrupted many times over the last couple years and I haven’t been handling it very well, to be honest. Some have been good changes, others not so much. Even with those good changes, it came with an adjustment period that I wasn’t expecting.

But, change is good. While it can be frustrating, it is good. It means growth is happening. Change also means that I’m getting out of the comfort zone. Which, I don’t like. But, the whole theme of 2019 for me has been getting out of my comfort zone and challenging myself.

The most prevalent adjustment has been the change in my daily schedule. In the last couple years, I’ve had to adjust from a full-time job, part-time job + school, 3 different jobs and working from home while starting my own business. So, you can tell my schedule has completely changed many times. 

Then I had to experienced change again when I moved out of my parent’s house for the first time in 2.5 years into my beautiful apartment. I literally moved just 3 miles away, and it was something that I had been waiting for for so long. Even though I work my butt off to get there and was excited to move out, I immediately started feeling off. I felt an odd feeling in my stomach, like something was wrong. I couldn’t focus and everything just seemed off. Even though I was doing the exact same thing, just in a different place. It really didn’t make much sense to me.

During this transition into my apartment, it was almost like everything seemed to be changing and shifting. Like, a new chapter opening and I felt like I needed to make changes to just about everything. I was starting to feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed with the stress that comes with starting my own business and figuring things out, as well as adjusting to my new environment. All of which are good things, but for some reason, I just had such a hard time getting my schedule figured out.

Before I moved out, I felt like I had myself on a pretty consistent schedule. I was getting comfortable and felt like I was starting to get things figured out. Moving out made me second guess everything I was doing in my business. I was getting a feeling like I needed to make some changes. But, I didn’t know how or where to start.

I’m still learning every single day how to adjust better and to be accepting of this change in my life. It’s inevitable and necessary for growth. But, slowly but surely, I’m starting to get closer to fully adjusting to this change and figuring out my new schedule.

So, what have I done to help myself adjust to change?

First, I had to learn to be nice to myself and try not to get frustrated when I didn’t have the answers right away. 

Change for me is frustrating. Like I’ve already mentioned, when my routine is disrupted and things start to not work like they used to, it’s frustrating. But, I have come to learn to be nicer to myself and to try not to get overwhelmed. With everything, I’ve noticed that it all starts with being nicer to myself. I have to be able to allow myself to go through the adjustment period. At the end of the day, it ultimately means that growth is happening and something bigger and better is on the other side. If I fall into the trap of beating myself up, I just won’t end up getting anywhere. Everything is a learning experience.

I started testing out different things in my schedule to see what works best.

Since I’m changing, and my schedule is changing, things are going to look a little bit differently. The flexibility in my schedule is nice and it can be hard to figure out when it’s best for me to work on different tasks. This included what days/time of days works best for doing different tasks and even chores. 

A big example of this was when I would do what used to be my “weekend chores”. I noticed that I was wanting to use my weekends mostly for relaxing, rather than prepping. I used to use my Sunday’s to do alllll of the chores. Grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, prepping, etc. But, I started to notice that I was just getting exhausted and felt tired going into the next week. So, I started testing doing certain chores Thursday & Friday so I didn’t have to do it all over the weekend. It’s actually working! 

I went back to my parent’s house when I needed/wanted to.

I had a hard time figuring out if this was a necessary thing to do at first. I was used to living with my parents for so long and actually missed being around them when I moved out. When I first moved out, I didn’t know what to do. So, I started going back home pretty much everyday since I only moved 3 miles down the street. This was also when the weather was getting nice and both my cat and I wanted to be outside. 

Going back to this normalcy helped me tremendously. I had such a hard time adjusting to being in my apartment all the time and couldn’t get any work done. Some might think that’s pretty sad, but it’s just how I am I guess. I’m very much a homebody as well and need to be close to my family at all times. The first week I was going home in the morning and that has changed to the afternoon. Over the summer, I wanted to be able to spend the afternoon outside and sometimes by the pool because my parents have a pool. So, going back to my parent’s house in the morning changed to working at my apartment in the morning and spending the afternoon at my parents house. Now, I don’t necessarily feel like I need to go back to my parent’s house in the afternoon’s. But, it has been a nice option to be able to work there if I want to.

I did research into what other people were doing.

I’m a big advocate for doing this kind of research. This helped me to see that I wasn’t the only one struggling in this way and also to see exactly what others were doing. It can be difficult to figure it out on your own, so it can be helpful to get some ideas from others who have done it themselves. I typically went to Pinterest & YouTube!

Started trying not to be as rigid with my schedule.

This is hard for me since I am very routine-oriented. But, as I am learning, change is inevitable. After going through all this change the last couple years, I have learned that I need to be more open to letting it happening. To be able to change my mindset and perception to be able to let change in. Not to mention the unexpected occurrences that can happen. If  I don’t have time to get something done on a certain day, I have to be able to let myself move that task around without letting it completely overwhelm me. It’s just a part of the journey!


Still, change will always come with some resistance. I think that’s normal and there will always be an adjustment period. With all the changes that have come my way, I have ultimately been able to learn, grow and be better prepared to adjust in the future. I am still learning about my schedule and what works for me, but that will come with time. 

For now, I’m starting to let myself enjoy where I am in life right now. We are all learning everyday. I hope this post helped someone who is struggling with some kind of adjustment to change. It can be hard, but it is possible! 💗

Time Management While Working From Home

Progression, not perfection.

I’ve always thought I had pretty good time management skills. I balanced a LOT of things while in college.. From regular school work, cheerleading practice, workouts, studying, work, etc., I thought I had it all figured out. Turns out, things are a little different when you are in the “real world”.

In college, you kind of have your schedule figured out for you, based on when you have class, practice, work, etc. When you have your own business & work from home, you have EVERYTHING to figure out on your own!

-Figuring out what is most important

-How long certain tasks will take

-What order to do the tasks in

-Where to even start?

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I very quickly realized that I had A LOT of trial and error to do. I had a lot of figuring out what will work for my schedule & won’t. It really sounds a lot easier that it really is! Working from home is great, but you have a lot of time to work with that you aren’t used to. Figuring out what to do & when can be tricky. But, I’m here to provide some insight into what I’ve learned to be helpful in my journey so far!

BRAIN DUMP!


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When I first started, I felt so overwhelmed with all that I felt like I had to do. I would sit down to do it, then have no idea where to even start. So, I found that by taking the time to just brain dump everything onto a piece of paper. I mean EVERYTHINGGGG.

I would even categorize everything.

From each client & their platforms- what is EVERYTHING that I need to do for each client?

What is everything I want to do for my business?

For my social media platforms?

What blog do I want to work on next?

         What do I want to talk about this week?

ORDER OF IMPORTANCE


What needs to be done ASAP vs what can wait a little bit? This is honestly easier said than done. It took some time to figure out what items were pressing & what items were not. Like I’ve mentioned, these things can take some time!

WHAT WORKS FOR YOU?


As we all are aware, everyone is different, which means the ideal schedule looks different for everyone.

For me, I know I work better first thing in the morning & tend to slow down as the day goes on. I like to get all the tasks that needs the most brain power from 7am-11am & save the other tasks to the afternoon/evening. I know my motivation starts slowing down from 11am-2pm, so I let myself take a break & do low energy things. Sometimes I will run some errands at this time, take my cat outside, check my social media accounts, as well as my clients. If I feel like I am having trouble concentrating in the afternoon, I’ll go to a coffee shop for a couple hours to get some work done. I recently realized that I like to work on my blog at the end of the day, because writing is always a form of self-care for me.

Everyone is different & our schedules will vary from person-to-person. Starting your own business & working from home is such an incredible experience. I felt so overwhelmed in the beginning because I just had no idea where to even start. I felt so overwhelmed with everything I had to do, but had no idea what I even had to do, let alone figure out where to begin.

Take it day-by-day. You will continue to learn what works best for you as time goes on. It’s important to allow this adjustment period & make adjustments when needed.

MOST IMPORTANT THING I LEARNED


Listen to your body! Know when you are feeling exhausted & burnt out. Truth is, overworking yourself will do more harm than good. Creative juices will stop flowing, you’ll get even more overwhelmed & exhausted.

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The turning point for me was the day I decided to let myself sleep in on a Wednesday. I went to bed at 9pm & woke up at 7:30am. I. Felt. Amazing. I remember waking up just feeling so refreshed, my mind was clear & I have been unstoppable ever since. There were so many ideas coming to my mind that I wanted to do with my business. It literally did not happen until I gave my body some TLC!

Bottom Line: Let yourself sleep in every once in a while. Give your body some TLC when you need it. Take a bubble path, go on a run, drink some wine, CHILL. OUT. Do whatever you need to do!

I hope you found these tips to be helpful! If you are starting your own business & working from home, feeling overwhelmed and stressed, I feel you. It’s a work in progress, I’m still working on it as well. But, we are here to support each other & provide as much guidance as possible!

- Blissfully Jess2

Getting Fired Was The Best Thing to Happen to Me

When one door closes, another one opens.

Getting Fired Was the Best Thing to Happen to Me

To clarify, I mean in my professional career, being able to do exactly what I want & fulfill my happiness.

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When I first realized that clinical work was not for me, it started me off on a 3 year stress-filled journey to figure out where I was supposed to be. I became so overwhelmed & completely engulfed in trying to get this figured out.

When I finally got a job offer in May 2018, I thought it was the “big break” I was looking for. I tried to convince myself that I really enjoyed it and a good fit for me. I felt like this had to be it because I’ve worked so hard and stressed out so much about it that this had to work out.

I was completely overwhelmed, the job was not a good fit at all. I overworked myself trying to make myself good at the job. But, I wasn’t. I was so engulfed in trying to get my professional career off, I was completely risking my mental health. But, I was OK with it because I knew that you have to start somewhere, especially at the bottom. I knew that I had to work through the discomfort before getting to where I wanted to be. So, I kept going and kept trying. Even when I wasn’t at work, I spent every waking minute trying to figure out how I could be better at the job.

I got so overwhelmed & had completely abandoned all of my daily self-care habits. I got to a point where I felt like I was feeling depressed again. I didn’t have health insurance because I was waiting for my new insurance to kick in. So, I was trying to figure out how I was going to pay out of pocket to see my doctor and get on meds.

Then, I got fired.

At the end of my 5th week on the job, I was brought into the office at 6:45am and they fired me. I had to pack up my desk into my purse, while the other employees around me just watched me while I was in complete embarrassment. I rushed out the door with my tail between my legs, and haven’t been the same since.

Thank. Goodness.

In that moment, I was feeling numb, pretty confused about what just happened. I went home and for the first time in YEARS, I allowed my mind to STOP. I was forced into a period of self-reflection. What’s next? I had such a hard time getting an interview for a job and now I have to explain why I had 3 jobs in 6 months, one being for only 5 weeks. I have to be honest, I was tired of revising my resume and trying to explain my professional journey thus far. I get that it’s what you “have” to do, but man it’s exhausting.

So, I decided not to look for another job. I decided that it wasn’t worth trying to explain myself, my knowledge, my expertise, my belonging to Corporate America. I was ambitious and ready to get the show on the road, but I was so emotionally exhausted. I didn’t know which way to go, or what the next step was going to be. The unknown of the future was so blurred, even more than before.

My dad offered to give me a position at the business he and his friend started up. They needed help with marketing and social media. They weren’t able to pay me much, but it was something to give me some kind of experience and knowing that my efforts were at least appreciated.

It ended up being the biggest blessing.

I loved the flexibility. Not being constantly stressed all the time, actually doing things I actually enjoyed doing. I was able to make the position my own, exercise my abilities and showcase all of my knowledge and talents without being micromanaged.

That’s when I was 100% certain that I was not meant to be a part of Corporate America. That’s also when I realized WHY I was never given a chance. I’m not meant to be there.

That’s OK. I’m realizing that now. Starting my own business is really freaking hard. I’m doing this all on my own, trying to figure everything out & make a living for myself. But, I am able to utilize my knowledge, expertise, education and my work experience thus far. Honestly, my resume doesn’t make much sense. I have 3 years of clinical work, 3 months in childcare, 5 weeks in recruiting and a Master’s Degree in Business Psychology. I can imagine recruiters looking at my resume and thinking: “This girl seems confused.”

Thank U, Next.

So, here I am. Trying to put together the pieces of my business at my parent’s house all day with my cat. Even though it’s hard as heck, I wouldn’t change a single thing.

This means even better opportunities are on the horizon.

Yes they are girl, you better believe it. Whatever you do, DO NOT give up.

- Blissfully Jess2

First month of entrepreneurship

Who else thinks January flew by?!

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The first month of the year did not go as I expected, but it never does, does it??

In November & December, while I was planning my business, I was super excited & energized to be working on my business. It was a cool feeling and I truly enjoyed working on it. But, the moment I made my announcement, everything shifted. I found myself getting overwhelmed and exhausted. A week in, I was thinking to myself, “what did I just get myself into?” It’s like everything became real. Up until that point, I obviously knew it was happening, but it didn’t really hit me until it became official. I immediately started feeling frantic, like I needed to get everything figured out. I felt like I had so much to do, I would get up early, sit down and have no idea what to do.

I did not decide to start a business because I thought it would be “easy”. But, I did quickly realize that I wasn’t as prepared as I thought I was going to be. That’s probably a main reason for why I was feeling so unsure when I would sit down to get work done. My schedule & tasks have changed so much over the last year and all of a sudden everything I do is completely up to me to figure out. I am running a one woman show. I do the planning, creating, developing, analyzing, making phone calls, initiating emails, etc.

A week into January, I felt like I failing at running a business. I got to a point where I had to ask myself,, “what am I even failing at?” I had to give myself a reality check and slowwww downnnnn. I had multiple messages on LinkedIn, a handful of people that were reaching out wanting to collaborate and build a partnership, a handful of people wanted to help me network. I mean, I had to remind myself that opportunities were sitting right in front of me.

I always like being prepared and no matter how long & hard I worked to prepare for the launch and get my business organized, I wasn’t ever going to be completely prepared. The unknown & unpreparedness are two top things that stress me out and overwhelm me. I quickly realized that I had no idea the opportunities and the work that I had to do. I also understand that this happens. I did lots of research afterwards to make sure this was “normal”. I now have those targeted Facebook Ads about being a stressed out business owner & realized that what I was experiencing is normal.

The important thing that I had to understand & remind myself is that you have two important choices: 1. Let yourself continue to be overwhelmed & let the situation control you OR 2. Learn from this situation & continue moving forward. This has been a life motto of mine forever & when you’re in the moment it can be so hard to follow through with the latter option. Especially when you don’t know how to move forward from the situation. It’s like you know that you’re doing something wrong & there’s a major life lesson, but you’re not entirely sure what it is or where to go next.

So, I began overworking myself, stressing myself out… falling asleep between 6pm-7pm because I was so exhausted. I was more exhausted by the feeling that I wasn’t sure what I needed to do to keep moving forward. This goes back to my feeling that I just want to be successful. I was so focused on trying to be successful right away & make enough money that I was getting overwhelmed.

So, I had to take a step back and analyze the situation and figure out what I needed to do to get myself on track and moving forward. Burn out is a very real thing & I knew I was heading in that direction if I continued doing what I was doing. I needed to get my mind & my focus back on track. I decided I needed to stop writing blogs for a little bit (even though I only had written 2 lol), let myself sleep in & start reintroducing a self-care routine! Towards the end of January, I decided to attend webinars, educate myself even more & developed an even better system to keep myself organized. I even came up with even more things that I want to do with my business. I’m continuing to gain more confidence in my abilities and where this business will take me.

This is an adventure. Honestly, working from home, being my own boss, building a business that I love & I am proud of, making a positive impact on people’s lives… that makes all of this worth it. At the end of the day, I am so grateful for this opportunity. I am truly blessed to be able to be building a life & a business that I love & gives me so much energy.

One of the most important lessons I learned in January was: Say “yes” more often. I had a handful of people reach out & want to learn more about what I do and see if there was an opportunity for collaboration. I ended up meeting a handful of people and learned a lot from each person. I’m learning more and more how to get out of my comfort zone & be as successful as I want to be.

I am young. I’m still learning. I’m still growing. But, we all are, right? You never stop.

So, how was your January?!

- Blissfully Jess2