What I Learned About Adjusting To Change

If you are anything like me, change- whether it’s exciting or not- comes with an adjustment period. I’m very routine-oriented. I rely very heavily on my daily routines & when it’s disrupted in some way, I feel kind of all off-centered. Even if I’m doing the same routine in a different place, the feeling is different and it comes with a new experience that I have to adjust to. Even if it’s something exciting, that I’ve been waiting so long for and overly excited about. For me, all changes come with some form of a transition period.


My daily routine has been disrupted many times over the last couple years and I haven’t been handling it very well, to be honest. Some have been good changes, others not so much. Even with those good changes, it came with an adjustment period that I wasn’t expecting.

But, change is good. While it can be frustrating, it is good. It means growth is happening. Change also means that I’m getting out of the comfort zone. Which, I don’t like. But, the whole theme of 2019 for me has been getting out of my comfort zone and challenging myself.

The most prevalent adjustment has been the change in my daily schedule. In the last couple years, I’ve had to adjust from a full-time job, part-time job + school, 3 different jobs and working from home while starting my own business. So, you can tell my schedule has completely changed many times. 

Then I had to experienced change again when I moved out of my parent’s house for the first time in 2.5 years into my beautiful apartment. I literally moved just 3 miles away, and it was something that I had been waiting for for so long. Even though I work my butt off to get there and was excited to move out, I immediately started feeling off. I felt an odd feeling in my stomach, like something was wrong. I couldn’t focus and everything just seemed off. Even though I was doing the exact same thing, just in a different place. It really didn’t make much sense to me.

During this transition into my apartment, it was almost like everything seemed to be changing and shifting. Like, a new chapter opening and I felt like I needed to make changes to just about everything. I was starting to feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed with the stress that comes with starting my own business and figuring things out, as well as adjusting to my new environment. All of which are good things, but for some reason, I just had such a hard time getting my schedule figured out.

Before I moved out, I felt like I had myself on a pretty consistent schedule. I was getting comfortable and felt like I was starting to get things figured out. Moving out made me second guess everything I was doing in my business. I was getting a feeling like I needed to make some changes. But, I didn’t know how or where to start.

I’m still learning every single day how to adjust better and to be accepting of this change in my life. It’s inevitable and necessary for growth. But, slowly but surely, I’m starting to get closer to fully adjusting to this change and figuring out my new schedule.

So, what have I done to help myself adjust to change?

First, I had to learn to be nice to myself and try not to get frustrated when I didn’t have the answers right away. 

Change for me is frustrating. Like I’ve already mentioned, when my routine is disrupted and things start to not work like they used to, it’s frustrating. But, I have come to learn to be nicer to myself and to try not to get overwhelmed. With everything, I’ve noticed that it all starts with being nicer to myself. I have to be able to allow myself to go through the adjustment period. At the end of the day, it ultimately means that growth is happening and something bigger and better is on the other side. If I fall into the trap of beating myself up, I just won’t end up getting anywhere. Everything is a learning experience.

I started testing out different things in my schedule to see what works best.

Since I’m changing, and my schedule is changing, things are going to look a little bit differently. The flexibility in my schedule is nice and it can be hard to figure out when it’s best for me to work on different tasks. This included what days/time of days works best for doing different tasks and even chores. 

A big example of this was when I would do what used to be my “weekend chores”. I noticed that I was wanting to use my weekends mostly for relaxing, rather than prepping. I used to use my Sunday’s to do alllll of the chores. Grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, prepping, etc. But, I started to notice that I was just getting exhausted and felt tired going into the next week. So, I started testing doing certain chores Thursday & Friday so I didn’t have to do it all over the weekend. It’s actually working! 

I went back to my parent’s house when I needed/wanted to.

I had a hard time figuring out if this was a necessary thing to do at first. I was used to living with my parents for so long and actually missed being around them when I moved out. When I first moved out, I didn’t know what to do. So, I started going back home pretty much everyday since I only moved 3 miles down the street. This was also when the weather was getting nice and both my cat and I wanted to be outside. 

Going back to this normalcy helped me tremendously. I had such a hard time adjusting to being in my apartment all the time and couldn’t get any work done. Some might think that’s pretty sad, but it’s just how I am I guess. I’m very much a homebody as well and need to be close to my family at all times. The first week I was going home in the morning and that has changed to the afternoon. Over the summer, I wanted to be able to spend the afternoon outside and sometimes by the pool because my parents have a pool. So, going back to my parent’s house in the morning changed to working at my apartment in the morning and spending the afternoon at my parents house. Now, I don’t necessarily feel like I need to go back to my parent’s house in the afternoon’s. But, it has been a nice option to be able to work there if I want to.

I did research into what other people were doing.

I’m a big advocate for doing this kind of research. This helped me to see that I wasn’t the only one struggling in this way and also to see exactly what others were doing. It can be difficult to figure it out on your own, so it can be helpful to get some ideas from others who have done it themselves. I typically went to Pinterest & YouTube!

Started trying not to be as rigid with my schedule.

This is hard for me since I am very routine-oriented. But, as I am learning, change is inevitable. After going through all this change the last couple years, I have learned that I need to be more open to letting it happening. To be able to change my mindset and perception to be able to let change in. Not to mention the unexpected occurrences that can happen. If  I don’t have time to get something done on a certain day, I have to be able to let myself move that task around without letting it completely overwhelm me. It’s just a part of the journey!


Still, change will always come with some resistance. I think that’s normal and there will always be an adjustment period. With all the changes that have come my way, I have ultimately been able to learn, grow and be better prepared to adjust in the future. I am still learning about my schedule and what works for me, but that will come with time. 

For now, I’m starting to let myself enjoy where I am in life right now. We are all learning everyday. I hope this post helped someone who is struggling with some kind of adjustment to change. It can be hard, but it is possible! 💗

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Time Management While Working From Home

Progression, not perfection.

I’ve always thought I had pretty good time management skills. I balanced a LOT of things while in college.. From regular school work, cheerleading practice, workouts, studying, work, etc., I thought I had it all figured out. Turns out, things are a little different when you are in the “real world”.

In college, you kind of have your schedule figured out for you, based on when you have class, practice, work, etc. When you have your own business & work from home, you have EVERYTHING to figure out on your own!

-Figuring out what is most important

-How long certain tasks will take

-What order to do the tasks in

-Where to even start?

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I very quickly realized that I had A LOT of trial and error to do. I had a lot of figuring out what will work for my schedule & won’t. It really sounds a lot easier that it really is! Working from home is great, but you have a lot of time to work with that you aren’t used to. Figuring out what to do & when can be tricky. But, I’m here to provide some insight into what I’ve learned to be helpful in my journey so far!

BRAIN DUMP!


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When I first started, I felt so overwhelmed with all that I felt like I had to do. I would sit down to do it, then have no idea where to even start. So, I found that by taking the time to just brain dump everything onto a piece of paper. I mean EVERYTHINGGGG.

I would even categorize everything.

From each client & their platforms- what is EVERYTHING that I need to do for each client?

What is everything I want to do for my business?

For my social media platforms?

What blog do I want to work on next?

         What do I want to talk about this week?

ORDER OF IMPORTANCE


What needs to be done ASAP vs what can wait a little bit? This is honestly easier said than done. It took some time to figure out what items were pressing & what items were not. Like I’ve mentioned, these things can take some time!

WHAT WORKS FOR YOU?


As we all are aware, everyone is different, which means the ideal schedule looks different for everyone.

For me, I know I work better first thing in the morning & tend to slow down as the day goes on. I like to get all the tasks that needs the most brain power from 7am-11am & save the other tasks to the afternoon/evening. I know my motivation starts slowing down from 11am-2pm, so I let myself take a break & do low energy things. Sometimes I will run some errands at this time, take my cat outside, check my social media accounts, as well as my clients. If I feel like I am having trouble concentrating in the afternoon, I’ll go to a coffee shop for a couple hours to get some work done. I recently realized that I like to work on my blog at the end of the day, because writing is always a form of self-care for me.

Everyone is different & our schedules will vary from person-to-person. Starting your own business & working from home is such an incredible experience. I felt so overwhelmed in the beginning because I just had no idea where to even start. I felt so overwhelmed with everything I had to do, but had no idea what I even had to do, let alone figure out where to begin.

Take it day-by-day. You will continue to learn what works best for you as time goes on. It’s important to allow this adjustment period & make adjustments when needed.

MOST IMPORTANT THING I LEARNED


Listen to your body! Know when you are feeling exhausted & burnt out. Truth is, overworking yourself will do more harm than good. Creative juices will stop flowing, you’ll get even more overwhelmed & exhausted.

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The turning point for me was the day I decided to let myself sleep in on a Wednesday. I went to bed at 9pm & woke up at 7:30am. I. Felt. Amazing. I remember waking up just feeling so refreshed, my mind was clear & I have been unstoppable ever since. There were so many ideas coming to my mind that I wanted to do with my business. It literally did not happen until I gave my body some TLC!

Bottom Line: Let yourself sleep in every once in a while. Give your body some TLC when you need it. Take a bubble path, go on a run, drink some wine, CHILL. OUT. Do whatever you need to do!

I hope you found these tips to be helpful! If you are starting your own business & working from home, feeling overwhelmed and stressed, I feel you. It’s a work in progress, I’m still working on it as well. But, we are here to support each other & provide as much guidance as possible!

- Blissfully Jess2