The Power of Journaling

I’ve always been a writer. It’s been my art and how I’ve always been able to express myself. Writing was always what I excelled at in school. Pretty much the only thing I excelled at, really. While I was good at and enjoyed writing, I was never really one to write in a journal growing up. I just never really knew what I would write about in a journal, so I didn’t.

In 2016, journaling became a really important part of my self-care & taking care of my mental health. I started journaling in May 2016 when life got pretty stressful and I found myself struggling to keep my sanity. I would write about everything going on and trying to make myself think positively going into the day. I wrote on a notepad, nothing special, but I just used whatever I had laying around already. I would try writing every morning, talking myself into trying to be all positive throughout the day. I tried for a couple weeks, but ended up giving up weeks later. I had heard all about the positive things that could come from journaling, but I just wasn’t seeing the benefits myself.

In September 2016, I went to counseling for the first time. During my first session, my counselor told me to get myself a pretty planner and write everyday about what’s on my mind and write 3 things I love about myself everyday. Now, if you are going through a tough time and struggling to love yourself everyday, this is an incredibly tough task. But, I have been trying to keep journaling as a priority for a while now. 

Ever since then, for 3 years now, I have slowly been able to bring myself back together. While it was hard at first to even get the motivation and drive to write and find something that I loved about myself, I always ended up back there writing. I started writing about EVERY THING! It’s amazing all of the things that you can discover when you write it all down. 

Journaling isn’t just something to put on your to-do list and just use it as something to check off when it’s done. You have to take it seriously and be intentional. You may even discover some things lingering in your subconscious that you didn’t even know were there. 

Seriously, journaling is P O W E R F U L !

In the last year or so, I’ve really been trying to make this a daily thing. Before I start my day, I try to write 1-2 pages in my journal. I don’t give myself any limitations, just write. Everything that going on in my mind. I write about what’s frustrating me, how I’m feeling emotionally, the events going on in my life, what I’m excited/nervous about, what I am frustrated with myself about, where I want to be, my goals and ambitions. Anything. If it’s on my mind at the time, it goes in my journal. I had such a hard time at first figuring out what to write about. But, I’ve learned there’s no right or wrong way to journal. 

Sometimes, just getting all of the anger & stress out of your head and onto paper can be incredibly relieving. Keeping those negative words stuck in your head will only lead to releasing them in a way that you might regret later. Not to mention making you feel crappy. The thoughts might end up making you feel worse and you don’t know why. I get it. You get frustrated and can’t figure out how to get yourself to snap out of it. 

It might sound crazy if you aren’t an avid journal writer, but you seriously don’t know the true power of journaling. It can honestly be life changing. 

Over the last 3 years, I have made it to my fourth journal. Each journal carries moments, memories, struggles, breakthroughs. Each one holds a journey in my life. Sometimes, I will look back at these journals and really realize how far I have come. How when I first started journaling, I was an absolute mess. I hated everything and everyone. I was a miserable person, just going through the motions of life, wishing I could figure out what to do to pull myself together. 

To even think that I would end up where I am today, at that point is a dream that I didn’t even know that I had. Journaling can be transformative. It’s not just a task that you do just because people tell you that it’s “good to do”. With intention and purpose, it can truly transform lives. 

I typically don’t do journal prompts, because I feel like it takes away from what is on the surface that I need to talk about that specific day. But, these are some things that I usually end up writing about:

How are you feeling?

What emotions are you feeling?

How’s the week going?

What do you wish was going better?

What is going well?

What are you proud of yourself for?

What are you disappointed about?

Did someone/something make you mad?

If you prefer journal prompts, I definitely understand! There are TONS of prompts out there for any kind of self-discovery/reflection!

EXPRESS GRATITUDE

I also started writing about what I’m grateful for. I started with The Five Minute Journal. Even though I don’t like regular journal prompts, I did like the prompts prompts in this journal and I can honestly say that it helped me make expressing gratitude a habit.

I love The Five Minute Journal because it really gets you thinking about your intentions for the day and also reflecting at the end of the day.

You have prompts to write about at the start of the day and a reflection to do at the end of the day. The page starts off with a quote or a “weekly challenge”, followed by having you list 3 things you’re grateful for, 3 things that would make the day great and a daily affirmation.

You might notice that you have a hard time listing 3 things you’re grateful for each day. Especially on days that you don’t feel so great. But, the longer you keep to it, the easier it comes to you. I’ve noticed that throughout some days, I find myself naturally expressing gratitude for things that I would otherwise turn a blind eye to. 

Then, at the end of the day, you reflect on how the day went. Having you write about 3 things that went well and listing what would have made the day better. Even on those days that you feel didn’t go so well, this really helps to be able to find some positives in what you might think there aren’t any.

I’ve been better at journaling in the morning, than at night. I’m still working working on journaling about my day right before I go to bed, but it’s a work in progress! You’ve got to start somewhere, right?!


I usually like to start my day with both free journaling, as well as filling in The Five Minute Journal prompts. It’s taken practice to be able to make journaling a habit and to be able to find positive things to talk about. Even if I’m not feeling so great that day, journaling helps me get everything off my chest and expressing gratitude definitely helps me shift my mindset. Now, everyday isn’t going to be all positive and that’s okay. But, journaling has definitely been a main staple in helping me shift my mindset and perception going into each day.

Sometimes for me, journaling can bring an idea for a blog post or social media post I can write about. It has given me business ideas, realization of dreams & aspirations. I like to let my journaling and what comes to surface dictate the flow of the day and where I want to really place my focus. For example, starting a new journal sparked the idea to write a post about how transformative journaling has been. 

Imagine where your life could be if you started journaling ASAP. Not to be dramatic, but your life could seriously change forever. You just never know. ❤

xx

My 7 Tips For Falling Asleep

A couple years ago, I was experiencing a difficult time in my life and with that came many sleepless nights. I remember laying in bed most nights, exhausted, but also wide awake. I was emotionally drained and could not get myself together, it seemed. Some nights I would toss and turn and would get about 3 hours of sleep per night. I was exhausted, but still couldn’t figure out how to make it better. 

*I am not a trained professional, all of my tips are simply from personal experience and what worked for me.

I’ve always been someone that enjoyed falling asleep while watching TV. I knew that people said that it’s not a good idea to do this, but it never bothered before, so I didn’t see any problems with it. It worked for me until I went through the difficult time in my life when I was having a hard time sleeping. After struggling to sleep for a while, I decided that it was time to start researching & implementing some techniques to try out.

After doing some research online and getting some guidance from my counselor, I figured out several techniques that I could implement to help me fall asleep at night. Alas! I found a list of things to do that helps me sleep at night! So, I want to share them all with you. Nobody likes to toss and turn at night! 

This might seem excessive to some people, but I actually try to give myself a good hour before I want to “fall asleep”. Giving yourself time to wind down & get your mind and body ready to fall asleep is super helpful.

Here are a list of things that I try to pull from every night. I hope some of these tips help you too!


Turning off electronics an hour before bed (Phone, computer, TV)

Like a lot of people, I have always enjoyed laying in bed, watching TV until my eyes get sleepy and about to fall asleep. I also got into a habit of doing some social media scrolling at the same time as well. But, when I started having a hard time falling asleep, I was experiencing some extreme anxiety and those things started to not help me out at all. I know a lot of people mention turning off electronics, but watching TV & scrolling really did help me out in terms of helping me fall asleep (so I thought).

So, I started turning off my TV and stop scrolling an hour before I go to bed. I’m not perfect and don’t always follow this, but when I do, it definitely helps being able to refocus and start calming my mind down. However, I know that some people actually enjoy watching TV right before bed and find it to be incredibly relaxing. Whatever works for you! But, if you start noticing constant struggle to fall asleep, I would recommend at least giving this a try!

Melatonin

About an hour before I go to bed, I usually take 3-6g of melatonin. This is just a natural remedy to help you naturally fall asleep. I personally love melatonin because it helps me fall asleep, but it doesn’t make me feel all groggy the next morning. When I take a sleep aid, I can sometimes feel all groggy and half asleep if I didn’t get enough sleep for the sleep aid to wear off. Right now, I am enjoying the Nature Made Melatonin.

Essential Oil Diffuser 

I absolutely love my essential oil diffuser! An hour before bed, I also like to turn on my essential oil diffuser. There’s something so relaxing about diffusing lavender/eucalyptus/ tea tree oil to calm your mind. I have mine sitting right next to my bed on my night stand. I love climbing into bed with relaxing aroma already there, mmmm allll the calming feels right there!

The oil that I like to use is Pure Aroma because it comes in a package that contains allll of the oils that I like to use on a daily basis. I usually always have one package in my amazon cart because I know that I’m going to need a refill!

If you don’t have an essential oil diffuser yet, I would recommend getting one that comes with some oils to get you started, like this one. That way you can test out which oils you really like so you know which ones you would like to get a refill on.

Bubble bath/hot shower

One of my favorite things to do to wind down on a Sunday night is to take a relaxing bubble bath! I like to fill the tub with lavender bubble bath and bath salts. Light a couple candles, play relaxing music and soak for about 20 minutes or so. In my new apartment, I don’t have a bath tub (bummer), but I will sometimes take a hot shower before bed. Not exactly the same in my opinion, but it will have to do for now!

Reading

Reading is one of those activities that I really love, but I sometimes have a hard time getting myself to settle down with a good book. Instead of turning on TV to help me fall asleep, I started picking up a book and reading while in bed. Reading has been the perfect way for me to really calm my mind down and lets me naturally get sleepy. Sometimes I can only make it a couple pages before I have to turn off the lights. Recently, I’ve really enjoyed reading You Are A Badass How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero and Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo. 

Journaling

We’ve all heard about the major benefits of journaling. Maybe you are rolling your eyes at this point because you’ve heard it so much. Some nights I find myself talking myself out of it, but I’ve been trying to be better about it. Just picking up a journal and a pen and writing about your day- things that went well and what didn’t go so well. It really, REALLY helps to get everything out of your head and onto paper. Even starting off with a couple sentences every night might help to make it a habit. You never know what you might discover! It definitely helps getting everything out so it doesn’t sit on your subconscious.

Meditation

Ahhh, meditation. I personally have a love/hate relationship with meditation because I’m still really bad at it. I’ve been trying to make this a daily habit for a couple years now and it’s one of those things that takes some (lots) time to master. But, when I do practice meditation, I notice how much more relaxed and calm my mind is. Even if it’s just listening to calming music, rather than a guided meditation. Just a couple of minutes can work wonders! I do recommend getting some guided meditation apps on your phone to try out nightly. Most of them have free options so you don’t have to commit to monthly payments if you don’t think that you’ll need that kind of investment. Some guided meditation apps that I like are Sanvello, Calm & Simple Habit.


There you have it! Those are my 7 tips for helping with sleepless nights. I don’t do allll of them every single night. But, they have all helped in my journey to sleeping better. Nightly, I try to at least take melatonin, set my essential oil diffuser, journal & read.

Give these tips a try and let me know if any of them helped!

xx

A lot can happen in just ONE YEAR!

OCTOBER 2018 ➡️ OCTOBER 2019

One year ago I was 25 years old, still living at my parents house, looking at my 2 degrees and wondering why the heck I couldn’t get my life together. There’s no hopeless, frustrating feeling like staring at your Master’s degree, applying to all the jobs, revising your resume a million times, connecting with & contacting all the recruiters you can find on LinkedIn while making a whopping $0/month income, feeling like you’re getting nowhere.

You can see the stress and frustration on my face and in my body language. I looked at this picture right after I took it and knew that I had to make some changes. All I knew to do at the time was continue working on myself. That meant dragging myself out of bed early in the morning to get in a sweaty workout.

It’s almost coming up on one year (October 31/Halloween to be exact) that my mom gave me the crazy idea to start my own business. I was already helping my dad with their social media, so why not turn it into a business and help other small businesses as well? The wheels started turning. I told myself that if I ended up creating this business, that I would find a way to use my platforms to spread as much positivity and inspiration as I possibly could. I had no idea where the business was going to take me, but I knew this was going to be the start of something so life changing if I stuck to it. 

But, all things, whether it’s exciting or not, comes with various road blocks and frustrations. Over the last year, I’ve been able to create and accomplish things that I never even knew were possible for me. 

One year ago, I was confused, frustrated, overwhelmed, stressed and just wanted to get this thing called life figured out already. I was getting discouraged by seeing everyone else on social media seemingly landing prestigious jobs, buying houses, getting married, etc etc. I fell deep into “woe is me”, because that’s all I knew to do at the time. “Why is everyone else getting everything figured out except me? What am I doing wrong?”

My mom giving me the idea to start my own business ultimately lead to me to understanding that I am in complete control of getting my life where I want it to be. I had no idea what that meant for me, but I knew that I had to put my complete trust in my faith and the universe to guide me to where I’m supposed to be.

It meant taking chances and risks along the way so I could learn and continue to grow. 

Nearly ONE YEAR later and I can honestly tell you that I am in a completely different place than I was last year. It all started with working from the inside out. Believing in myself that I can do the thing that I never put thought into because I didn’t think I was capable of it. 

I hired a coach, put in the work, made mistakes, had mental breakdowns, experienced anxiety like I’ve never experienced before, connected with a whole bunch of awesome women, made investments, hired more coaches, curled up in a ball, cried some more, attended webinars, took notes, wanted to just throw in the towel at times and kept going.

Oh, I also moved out of my parents house into an apartment that I never thought I’d be able to afford. 

In the last couple months, I’ve felt an active calling to do more with my business. I’ve never known what people meant when they say they felt “called to do this/that”. But now I know exactly what those people are talking about. But, I had no idea what the universe was trying to tell me to do or how to even figure out what the heck I was supposed to do with this feeling. 

I’ve gotten comfortable with my social media management business and my current clients, but I started feeling like I needed to do MORE

I didn’t know what to do to figure this out, so I started reading. 

I’ve never been a big reader because reading usually puts me to sleep (lol). But, I honestly felt an active motivation & energy to pick up all the books I could find and start reading. I’d heard people talk about the You Are A Badass series by Jen Sincero, Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo and Best Self : Be You, Only Better by Mike Bayer.

So, I went to Amazon and ordered 5 books. 

  1. You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero

2. You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth by Jen Sincero

3. You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable by Jen Sincero

4. Everything Is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

5. Best Self: Be You, Only Better by Mike Bayer

I also went to various Facebook groups and asked for recommendations of what to do. I learned about the power of meditation and manifestation. I journaled. A lot. I now have a new fire and understanding that I have all the power in the world to create something super powerful and fulfilling. 

I’ve hired another coach and I am happy to be in the process of building ANOTHER BUSINESS. 

I told myself that I would create a platform for change, no matter where the journey decided to take me. When you understand your worth and the power you have, you can truly do anything with your life that you want to. As long as you don’t give up on yourself

There was one part of You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero that really stuck out to me. 

“Can you imagine if your favorite musicians never let themselves make enough money to buy guitars or take lessons or hire producers or buy purple platforms boots and tight sparkly pants or pay thousands of dollars for studio time so they could record the songs that saved your ass in high school? Or if the people who build airplanes refused to make the money they need to pay for the research and the materials and the factories and engineers and the electricity and whatever plethora of other costly things that go into building the miraculous flying machines that allow us to travel the world, hang out on tropical beaches, and visit the people we love so dearly?”

Just let that sink in for a second because this was so important for me to hear, I’ve read that paragraph many, many times. She’s talking about making investments and finding the money, but this also means that by not following your dreams & goals might mean not making the difference that you were supposed to make. There have been so many people throughout history that have made some incredible difference in the world. A difference that we are all reaping the benefits of every single day. Who says that can’t be you or I as well?


Over the last year, I’ve learned that sometimes the journey doesn’t look the same for everyone. We are all experiencing difficulties in our lives and obstacles that we are maybe a little bit ashamed of. But, if we can find the fire inside of us, we can truly make the difference that we were put on this earth to make. 

I truly believe that there’s more to life than just going to school, working until retirement, living for Friday and dreading Monday. What’s the point of that? With this new business that I’m creating, I hope that I can help empower & inspire others to understand their worth & reach their full potential. Stay tuned for more info! ❤

xo

MY FAVORITE THINGS ABOUT FALL / FALL ACTIVITIES / FALL DECOR

For a lot of people, fall is the best time of the year. 🍂🎃 Anyone agree? While I am definitely a summer girl, I enjoy fall as well. Living in the midwest, we get to enjoy all 4 seasons, which I actually thoroughly enjoy! While I could go for shorter winters and less snow storms, I guess I appreciate that to. I would much rather be the heat of summer, sweating all day than have to deal with single digit temperatures and interacting with snow. Summer is still my absolute FAVORITE time of the year, but I do enjoy allll things fall! I do admit that by the end of August, I’m usually ready to move on from the heat of summer and enjoy all there is to enjoy about fall!

I do get to a point where I am a little bit excited to put away the bathings suits and bring out all the fall outfits, decor and fall activities. So, here are some of my favorite things about fall!

FOOTBALL

I grew up in a family that enjoyed watching Ohio State football every Saturday. I was also a cheerleader for football for almost 10 years, even cheering in college! Now, it’s something that absolutely LOVE! I can’t really put a finger on exactly why, maybe it’s just always been in my life. It’s always fun to watch and a good time while hanging out with friends. Just something about football season is so enjoyable. 

SWEATER WEATHER & FALL CLOTHES

After enjoying the heat of summer for a couple months, it does get a little bit annoying after a while. I would still choose to be sweating all day, rather than endure any kind of cold. BUT, there is something so nice about being able to wear comfy sweaters and walk around without being a little bit uncomfortable. 

Now, I wouldn’t call myself a “fashonista” to any stretch of the imagination, but I do enjoy fall attire. I’m typically lounging around in yoga pants and a sweatshirt, but there are some times when I decide to go into public in some cute fall attire!

FALL SCENTS

I am definitely one to live by seasonal scents. I have my scents organized by season and bring them out as the seasons change. Whatever is left at the end of each season, I will bring back out next year. I’ve been trying not to continue buying new scents until the ones I have are out. But, it’s definitely one of my “guilty pleasures”. Especially candles. Ask my mom and my boyfriend… I.LOVE.CANDLES. Anyway, fall scents are always fun and smell so good and so refreshing!

COLORFUL TREES

There’s something so beautiful about the few weeks of the year that the trees are the most beautiful shades and combinations of yellow, orange and red. 

FALL DECOR

I don’t really decorate during spring and summer, but I do enjoy some good fall and Christmas decor! I’m not one to be super glamorous or anything, but I do enjoy putting out some things to make the environment feel nice n’ cozy!

FALL ACTIVITIES

Who doesn’t love a good pumpkin patch and apple picking during fall?! The last couple years, my boyfriend and I have gone to Lynd Fruit Farm for our pumpkin & apple picking.

This was from last year!

Fall 2018

We went mid-October when it felt a little bit more like fall and the pumpkin selection was very slim!

This year!

FALL 2019

This year we decided to go a little bit earlier to be able take advantage of the vast varieties of pumpkins to choose from! It has also been very unseasonably warm this fall so far! It was around 85 degrees when we went, so it still felt like summer, but we were determined to get our fall vibe on!

We were able to get 4 pumpkins this year! Last year we only got 2 pumpkins, all normal orange pumpkins. We were even able to get our hands on a red & white pumpkin! 🎃🍂


What does one do with all those apples and pumpkin seeds?! Make goodies of course! 🥧

apple bread

apple sauce

apple pie

pumpkin seeds

As I’m publishing this post, it is going to be 90 degrees, so it doesn’t fully feel like fall yet. But, that doesn’t have to stop us from enjoying everything there is to enjoy about fall!

Like I already mentioned, I am very much a summer girl. But, there’s just something about fall and the holidays that I get so excited about. I’m ready for the temperatures to cool off a little bit and really enjoy sweater weather!

What’s your favorite part about fall?!

Tips For When You’re Not Feeling Motivated

Not feeling motivated is REAL and it is FRUSTRATING! Knowing you have a lot to do but just can’t seem to get yourself to get it done can be just incredibly frustrating. But, what I’m learning is there’s no such thing as feeling motivated all.the.time. Even though it’s frustrating, I’m starting to learn what I can do to help myself work through feeling unmotivated. 

Below I have listed a couple of things that I have found to be helpful during the times that I don’t feel motivated to get work done. These are just little things that work for me, and don’t necessarily mean they will be helpful for anyone else. But, they might be worth a try if you are struggling and don’t know what to do, like I feel sometimes.

The main thing to understand is that you have to know yourself and what works best for you. What works for me, might not work for you and vice versa. You might work well under pressure, but I tend to crumble under pressure. These items might not work for you based on your personality and what works best for you.


Not force myself to try to get something done.

Especially if I was planning on writing a blog post or create content, I can’t force myself to be creative. Trying to force myself just makes me even more frustrated and feeling burnt out. So, this might mean holding off on that task or taking a step back for a little bit. For some people, they strive on pressure, but for me, I don’t work well AT.ALL. So, I can’t put that kind of pressure on myself and force myself because it just doesn’t work for me.

Journal/write down what’s on my mind.

Sometimes I can’t get something done because I have a lot on my mind. Journaling about what’s going on in my mind helps me get it out and clear my mind. Doing this sometimes also helps me come up with ideas that maybe I want to blog about or topics that I want to research more. It’s important to listen to your mind and your body and to be able to give it what it needs at that time. There’s nothing wrong with taking the time to journal to help you get everything out. I notice this to be prevalent if I’m really stressed about something, if I got into an argument, received some bad news, or even if I just need figured out what is going on in my mind. You would be very surprised what kinds of things come to surface when you journal. Things that you would not even expect. But, it might be exactly what you need to give you that motivation that you need to keep going and get work done like you wanted to.  

Going on a walk or just getting outside.

Sometimes just leaving the environment and getting outside helps. Like I mentioned above, just sitting at my desk trying to force myself to be creative and get something done doesn’t help me. So, stepping away and getting some fresh air sometime helps to at least settle my mind down a little bit. 

Giving myself the day off.

Feeling unmotivated can sometimes be a sign that your body is telling you something. That you need to take a break and rest. I’m a very emotional person. So, when I receive unexpected sad news, it can hard to get myself to concentrate. During these times I know I just need to give myself- my mind and body an break. It can also mean that I’ve been overworking myself and my mind a little bit too much and I need to sleep. So, I’ll let myself sleep in or lay down for an afternoon nap. There’s nothing wrong with giving yourself a personal/mental health day if you need to. I think that sometimes we think that we need to force ourselves to work during difficult times and try to work through these times when we really just need to take some time off. Listen to your mind & body and give yourself permission to take a day off if you need to. You might feel like you are going into the next day feeling more refreshed, relaxed and motivated than if you tried to force yourself to try to work.

Go to Pinterest & YouTube for inspiration.

I feel like I say this in every post, but it has helped me out so much. There’s been times when I spent an hour each day for a week or 2 watching YouTube videos of people who I look up to and get ideas and motivation from them. If I get a “light bulb” to go off in my head, I’ll write it down and what comes from it. Pinterest is also a good place to look because it is filled with people who have all kinds of ideas to try out! It’s helpful to learn from others who have done what you’re doing before and they might have ideas that you might not of thought about before. This doesn’t mean taking their ideas, but you never know what kind of “light bulb” moment you might have!

Brain dumping everything that I want to get done.

There’s been times when I am feeling like I have so much to do but just don’t know where to start. So, I’ll sit down and brain dump everything that I feel like I need to get done. There’s been times when I do this and realize that I’ve been overwhelmed for no reason. From there I’ll try to break down the tasks and come up with a reasonable plan for getting them done. This often mean breaking it down into work, getting a little bit done at a time. When I’m feeling unmotivated, I try to start with the “easy” tasks because that sometimes leads to getting more ideas and leads me to getting even more work done than I originally anticipated. If I try to start with harder, more time consuming tasks, I know that I just won’t get anything done. But, if I start small, I often find myself getting more and more motivated and gaining more and more ideas. 


It’s a process for sure and not feeling motivated is very frustrating to deal with, especially when you feel like you have so much to do and just want to be productive. For me, I’ve learned that I’ll get an idea and have all of this motivation, work myself to exhaustion then feel burnt out for a couple days. Then I have to figure out how to get motivated again. I’ve done this many times because I feel like I need to take advantage of all the motivation that I have. But, that’s just not a feasible way to go about it. We all need breaks and we need to make sure that we are being cautious of our brain power, our bodies and step away and take breaks!

What I Learned About Adjusting To Change

If you are anything like me, change- whether it’s exciting or not- comes with an adjustment period. I’m very routine-oriented. I rely very heavily on my daily routines & when it’s disrupted in some way, I feel kind of all off-centered. Even if I’m doing the same routine in a different place, the feeling is different and it comes with a new experience that I have to adjust to. Even if it’s something exciting, that I’ve been waiting so long for and overly excited about. For me, all changes come with some form of a transition period.


My daily routine has been disrupted many times over the last couple years and I haven’t been handling it very well, to be honest. Some have been good changes, others not so much. Even with those good changes, it came with an adjustment period that I wasn’t expecting.

But, change is good. While it can be frustrating, it is good. It means growth is happening. Change also means that I’m getting out of the comfort zone. Which, I don’t like. But, the whole theme of 2019 for me has been getting out of my comfort zone and challenging myself.

The most prevalent adjustment has been the change in my daily schedule. In the last couple years, I’ve had to adjust from a full-time job, part-time job + school, 3 different jobs and working from home while starting my own business. So, you can tell my schedule has completely changed many times. 

Then I had to experienced change again when I moved out of my parent’s house for the first time in 2.5 years into my beautiful apartment. I literally moved just 3 miles away, and it was something that I had been waiting for for so long. Even though I work my butt off to get there and was excited to move out, I immediately started feeling off. I felt an odd feeling in my stomach, like something was wrong. I couldn’t focus and everything just seemed off. Even though I was doing the exact same thing, just in a different place. It really didn’t make much sense to me.

During this transition into my apartment, it was almost like everything seemed to be changing and shifting. Like, a new chapter opening and I felt like I needed to make changes to just about everything. I was starting to feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed with the stress that comes with starting my own business and figuring things out, as well as adjusting to my new environment. All of which are good things, but for some reason, I just had such a hard time getting my schedule figured out.

Before I moved out, I felt like I had myself on a pretty consistent schedule. I was getting comfortable and felt like I was starting to get things figured out. Moving out made me second guess everything I was doing in my business. I was getting a feeling like I needed to make some changes. But, I didn’t know how or where to start.

I’m still learning every single day how to adjust better and to be accepting of this change in my life. It’s inevitable and necessary for growth. But, slowly but surely, I’m starting to get closer to fully adjusting to this change and figuring out my new schedule.

So, what have I done to help myself adjust to change?

First, I had to learn to be nice to myself and try not to get frustrated when I didn’t have the answers right away. 

Change for me is frustrating. Like I’ve already mentioned, when my routine is disrupted and things start to not work like they used to, it’s frustrating. But, I have come to learn to be nicer to myself and to try not to get overwhelmed. With everything, I’ve noticed that it all starts with being nicer to myself. I have to be able to allow myself to go through the adjustment period. At the end of the day, it ultimately means that growth is happening and something bigger and better is on the other side. If I fall into the trap of beating myself up, I just won’t end up getting anywhere. Everything is a learning experience.

I started testing out different things in my schedule to see what works best.

Since I’m changing, and my schedule is changing, things are going to look a little bit differently. The flexibility in my schedule is nice and it can be hard to figure out when it’s best for me to work on different tasks. This included what days/time of days works best for doing different tasks and even chores. 

A big example of this was when I would do what used to be my “weekend chores”. I noticed that I was wanting to use my weekends mostly for relaxing, rather than prepping. I used to use my Sunday’s to do alllll of the chores. Grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, prepping, etc. But, I started to notice that I was just getting exhausted and felt tired going into the next week. So, I started testing doing certain chores Thursday & Friday so I didn’t have to do it all over the weekend. It’s actually working! 

I went back to my parent’s house when I needed/wanted to.

I had a hard time figuring out if this was a necessary thing to do at first. I was used to living with my parents for so long and actually missed being around them when I moved out. When I first moved out, I didn’t know what to do. So, I started going back home pretty much everyday since I only moved 3 miles down the street. This was also when the weather was getting nice and both my cat and I wanted to be outside. 

Going back to this normalcy helped me tremendously. I had such a hard time adjusting to being in my apartment all the time and couldn’t get any work done. Some might think that’s pretty sad, but it’s just how I am I guess. I’m very much a homebody as well and need to be close to my family at all times. The first week I was going home in the morning and that has changed to the afternoon. Over the summer, I wanted to be able to spend the afternoon outside and sometimes by the pool because my parents have a pool. So, going back to my parent’s house in the morning changed to working at my apartment in the morning and spending the afternoon at my parents house. Now, I don’t necessarily feel like I need to go back to my parent’s house in the afternoon’s. But, it has been a nice option to be able to work there if I want to.

I did research into what other people were doing.

I’m a big advocate for doing this kind of research. This helped me to see that I wasn’t the only one struggling in this way and also to see exactly what others were doing. It can be difficult to figure it out on your own, so it can be helpful to get some ideas from others who have done it themselves. I typically went to Pinterest & YouTube!

Started trying not to be as rigid with my schedule.

This is hard for me since I am very routine-oriented. But, as I am learning, change is inevitable. After going through all this change the last couple years, I have learned that I need to be more open to letting it happening. To be able to change my mindset and perception to be able to let change in. Not to mention the unexpected occurrences that can happen. If  I don’t have time to get something done on a certain day, I have to be able to let myself move that task around without letting it completely overwhelm me. It’s just a part of the journey!


Still, change will always come with some resistance. I think that’s normal and there will always be an adjustment period. With all the changes that have come my way, I have ultimately been able to learn, grow and be better prepared to adjust in the future. I am still learning about my schedule and what works for me, but that will come with time. 

For now, I’m starting to let myself enjoy where I am in life right now. We are all learning everyday. I hope this post helped someone who is struggling with some kind of adjustment to change. It can be hard, but it is possible! 💗

Florida Vacation 2019 / Full Itinerary & What I Learned

I recently talked about the importance of unplugging and the incredible impact it had on me. While taking some time off from my own social media accounts helped, I definitely needed to take it another step further. We already planned on going on vacation, but it ended up being exactly what I needed. To take a whole week away from everything and just enjoy myself. Get away from everything and let my mind calm down. We both work very hard and definitely enjoyed this MUCH needed vacation!


I took lots of footage of our vacation and everything that we did during our time in Florida. I put together a highlight video that you can watch at the end of this video. Below you will find a more in-depth explanation of everything that we did and where we went, just in case anyone is curious or would find it helpful!


My parents have a house in Punta Gorda, Florida. So, we were lucky enough to be able to use that as accommodation, as well as use their car for transportation. We were lucky because we were able to use that money we saved on accommodation & transportation on other activities during our trip.

Their location requires quite the drive to a beach, but they are very close to many different areas. So, we were able to go to 3 different beaches during our week-long stay! We also learned that August is right in the middle of their rainy season and is not the best time to vacation down there. It ended up raining everyday..while it was sunny and nice in Ohio. Oh well, lesson learned!

Day 1: Friday, August 9

Columbus, Ohio –> Punta Gorda, Florida

We had a later flight in the afternoon, so we didn’t get in until the evening. Since we were staying at my parent’s house, we needed to unpack and go grocery shopping. By the time all of the errands were done, it was evening and we were exhausted. So we just stayed in and rested up for the adventures to come!

I usually don’t get alcohol on the plane, but felt it was necessary to celebrate with some wine!

Day 2: Saturday, August 10

This was our first full day and we wanted to spend the day at the pool in their neighborhood! The day started out nice, but by afternoon, it started raining. Major bummer. We stayed for a while, but decided to go back home and get ready for the evening.

It did end up clearing up by evening. We went to Fisherman’s Village in Downtown Punta Gorda. One of our favorite restaurants in Punta Gorda is Hurricane Charley’s. This restaurant was actually named after Hurricane Charley that wiped out most of the city about 15 years ago. We love this place because they have great outdoor seating right along the port, not to mention excellent peel n’ eat shrimp!

We wanted to go to this other place called TT’s Tiki Bar, but they were having electrical problems and weren’t able to go. This place is quite literally a tiki hut bar along the port and has a really great view of the sunset! Maybe we’ll get to go next year!

Day 3: Sunday, August 11

We FINALLY had a nice day and were able to check out one of the beaches! We knew we wanted to go to Manasota Key (Englewood) and Michael figured out there was a nature hike just down the street from it.

So, on our way to the beach we decided to check out this nature hike. It was VERY pretty, but quickly realized that the path was actually flooded.

We almost turned back but both of us wanted to see where the path would lead us. So, we decided to take on all of the mosquitos and power through. At the end of the swampy path, was a dock where you can take kayaks and canoes, not to mention a very pretty view!

(It wasn’t until I got home to Ohio when it was brought to my attention that there might’ve been alligator(s) around! It did not even occur to me…) While it was very pretty, we probably won’t take that risk again!

After our swampy nature hike adventure, we went on our way to our first beach of the trip- Manasota Key! To me, there’s nothing more relaxing than laying on the beach, listening to the waves. Especially after being very busy and thinking “I made it!”. Definitely a great feeling!

In the evening we went to a rooftop bar called Perch 360 . Beautiful views and we got to watch a beautiful sunset!

Day 4: Monday, August 12

We originally planned to just have a pool day on this day, but we decided to go to Siesta Key when we realized that it was only an hour away. We figured we might as well check it out and make a whole day out of it! Unfortunately, it rained when we got there, but there was a couple hours when it wasn’t raining. It remained overcast pretty much the entire time we were there, but we made the most of it. There was a storm coming, so everyone ended up leaving the beach a little early.

While we were there, we thought we would walk around for a little bit before heading back home. 

Michael had been to Siesta Key before and knew of a great ice cream shop to go to called Big Olaf Creamery. Whenever I’m on vacation, I always want coconut-flavored ice cream! ( We also checked out some shops before heading home.

In the evening, we went to Peace River Beer Company. I thought this bar was cool because the bar itself has items inside the bar. It was filled with sand and shells with various other items like phones, fishing hooks, bottle openers, Florida license plate, plastic utensils, etc etc.

Day 5: Tuesday, August 13

We took a mini trip to Fort Myers last year and ended up really enjoying it! We drive up early, spend the day at the beach, check into our hotel, and even spend the next day before heading home. Last year we just went to the main beach, but we talked to a couple the night before at the brewery that recommended this other beach called Lover’s Key. 

Lover’s Key was a very nice beach! It was secluded and very quiet. It was a bit of a walk to the beach from the parking lot, but it was so worth it. Plus, there was beautiful scenery on the walk to the beach.

We stayed at Edison Beach House for one night, which I highly recommend! We had a partial beach view room and it was beautiful! It’s a little pricey, but worth it, especially for only staying there for one night. 

For dinner, we went to PierSide Grill. Which in my opinion, is the best restaurant to go to in Fort Myers because it’s pretty much right on the beach! 

We were going to watch the sunset on the pier, but we took too long at dinner- oops! We did walk on the pier, even though it was too late for the sunset!

Day 6: Wednesday, August 14

We were both tired and decided to take it easy this day. We originally planned to spend another day at the beach, but it was a rainy, gloomy day. We just ate breakfast at a place called Reese’s Restaurant, walked on the beach (got rained on a little bit) and went home.

Day 7: Thursday, August 15

Michael found this really cool cruise at Fisherman’s Village. Since Punta Gorda is close to Port Charlotte, they have various cruises/harbor tours that go around the port and even to the islands off of the Gulf.

The one we took was called Cayo Costa. The cruise took us out to Cayo Costa State Park. This cruise took us 2 hours out to an island, we spent the afternoon there, then road 2 hours back to Fisherman’s Village. During this cruise, we were able to see lots of dolphins! Very cool!

The beach was almost a mile from where the dock was, so we had to take a shuttle to and from the beach. It was a small little island, but definitely very cool!

Very pretty beach! It was just about the perfect way to wrap up the trip. We were there for about 2-2.5 hours before we had to head back to catch the boat. It ended up being perfect timing because there was a big, dark rain cloud coming for the island.

For our last night, we went back to Fisherman’s Village and ate dinner on the water at Village Fish Market. It was raining, of course, but we were still able to sit outside. We had to get one more order of peel n’ eat shrimp.

Day 8: Friday, August 16

We were going to try to do some more exploring since our flight wasn’t until later in the afternoon, but it was raining. Of course.

So, we went to breakfast at John Ski’s House of Breakfast and waiting at home until it was time to head to the airport. We left rainy Florida and arrived back in sunny Ohio!


I also invite you to watch my vacation highlight video! ⬇️


WHAT I LEARNED

This vacation was very necessary for the both of us! In starting my own business, I’ve had a hard time with figuring out how to completely “unplug” from everything, from reality and really enjoy myself. 

I learned the importance of giving myself the ability to take a vacation. It’s necessary. We all need a break sometimes! Especially with owning my own business and being my own boss, it can hard to let myself take a break. I feel like I always need to be “on” and always need to be working. Every minute can be filled by doing something else. Working ahead, something. 

But, that’s just not realistic. It’s exhausting. Letting myself completely take a break from reality was very freeing! I came back feeling so much more refreshed than when I was “unplugging” here at home. 

I’ve decided that I am going to continue giving myself vacations and small breaks throughout the year to keep my brain power. It’s important and necessary! It’s definitely been quite the journey and learning experience. I’m learning and growing every single day and I hope that sharing my experiences might help you out as well. Sometimes it’s nice to see that you aren’t the only one struggling.

Remember to allow yourself breaks when you need it! Listen to your body and your mind. Slow down when you need to and enjoy yourself!