5 Tips For Adjusting To Change When You Don’t Handle Change Well


If you are anything like me, change- whether it’s exciting or not- comes with an adjustment period. I’m very routine-oriented. I rely very heavily on my daily routines & when it’s disrupted in some way, I feel kind of all off-centered. 

Even if I’m doing the same routine in a different place, the feeling is different and it comes with a new experience that I have to adjust to. Even if it’s something exciting, that I’ve been waiting so long for and overly excited about. 

For me, all changes come with some form of a transition period.

But, what I have learned is that change is good

While it can be frustrating, it is good because it means growth is happening. That a breakthrough is happening & the next chapter, the next level of life is on the other side. 

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Change also forces you out of your comfort zone. Which, I don’t like because it can be extremely uncomfortable. I don’t think anyone really likes the feeling of getting out of their comfort zone, but that too comes with an adjustment period.

Over the last couple years, I have come to embrace change. It’s been a long journey, but I wanted to lay out some tips in this post for you if you are finding yourself in an adjustment period and need some tips!



First things first- be nice to yourself! 

I know that for me, I used to get very frustrated with myself when I don’t get things figured out. I like the flow of things & especially when I had a routine, I can get overwhelmed. It’s really important to be nice to yourself & to give yourself time to adjust!

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It always comes down to being nicer to yourself. Trust me, you won’t get anywhere by beating yourself up. Give yourself some grace here & remember, everything is a learning experience

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This time is a great opportunity to try out different things to see what you like in your schedule. You might be surprised at what you learn about what you actually enjoy!

An example of this is when I started experimenting with my “weekend chores”. I think it’s pretty common people to want to use the weekends, especially Sunday’s to prep for the upcoming week. But, I started  noticing that I was wanting to use my weekends mostly for relaxing, rather than prepping. Like most people, I used to use my Sunday’s to do alllll of the chores. Grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, prepping, etc. But, I started to notice that I was just getting exhausted and felt tired going into the next week. So, I started testing doing certain chores Thursday & Friday so I didn’t have to do it all over the weekend. It’s actually working! 

So, try out different things in this new schedule & see what works for you!


This definitely depends on your situation, but what helps me is keeping some parts of my old routine that I really enjoy. This doesn’t have to be anything major, but finding a way to integrate it into your new routine.

For me, I had a hard time adjusting to living at my new apartment, even though I moved just 3 miles down the road from my parents. I had been living with my parents for several years after college & it was weird living on my own, in a new place all by myself. I was struggling to focus & get any work done so, I started planning days to go back to my parents house for a couple hours in the afternoon. As you can tell, I’m a big homebody! Doing this really made the transition feel less intense & ultimately helped the transition process.

If this is something you don’t want to do & are just wanting to start fresh and not include some part of your old routine, that’s OK! Do whatever you feel is helpful for you!


If you came across this post, my guess is that you were doing some kind of research because you are looking for some guidance. I’m a big advocate for research because I think it can provide many benefits.

Doing some research does 2 main things:

  • Gives you some insight & tips to what others have done
  • Helps you see that you aren’t the only one struggling in this way

My favorite place to go for this kind of research is Pinterest & YouTube!

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Personally, this is hard for me since I am very routine-oriented & tend to be the QUEEN of rigidity. But, change is inevitable & you have to be able to adapt. It’s been a learning experience for me. But, I’ve learned that the less rigid you are, the better you feel because you can be flexible!

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I’ve actually come to enjoy not being so rigid. Being open to change has definitely been an adjustment period, but the tips I talked about in this post have helped me work through it. 

At the end of the day, you have to make sure that you are doing things & making decisions that will move you forward. Change is going to happen & it should happen! You have to accept & embrace change to be able to grow & move forward in life. 

We are all learning everyday. If you are struggling with some kind of adjustment to change in your life right now, I truly hope you found these tips to be helpful! 

It can be hard, but it is possible! <3

If you would like any additional guidance on creating a routine that works for you, I do offer 1:1 coaching and invite you to check out my opportunities if that is something that you would be interested in. Click here for more information on my 1:1 coaching opportunities! <3

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Coach Jessie Shibko

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