Over the last couple years, since I graduated from college in 2015, I’ve constantly felt like I’ve failed- unaccomplished, not good enough, not smart enough. No matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t seem to get to where I was hoping I was going to be at this point.
I don’t know about you, but I often find myself focusing on the things that I’m NOT doing/ haven’t accomplished yet. It’s so easy to focus on the negatives and what we aren’t doing in our lives or haven’t been able to accomplish… yet.
Shortly after college, I realized the career path I envisioned myself in was not for me. It was really hard for me to realize this & honestly, I struggled to figure out what I was supposed to be doing because I always saw myself in a specific industry. This lead me to struggle with my mental health & I even got fired from a job I thought was my “big break”.
At 25 years old, I found myself still living with my parents, with my Master’s degree, without a job & not knowing where I was supposed to go next. Due to these reasons, I considered a couple years in my mid-to-late twenties to be “dysfunctional”. Almost like I was going through a quarter life crisis.
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If you want to learn more about how I was able to go from feeling like I was “failing” at everything, to being a successful business owner, keep reading! I have a really important message to share with you!
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It’s really discouraging when you think that nothing you are doing is working. When it seems like everyone around you is accomplishing all of these amazing things and you’re over here struggling to accomplish literally anything.
Until I thought…
- Have I really “failed” at accomplishing anything?
- What if what I was considering as failures are actually steps to getting me closer to success?
- What if I’ve been so focused on thinking about “failures”, that I have actually been ignoring all of my accomplishments?
In thinking about these questions, I had an “aha!” moment. I found myself journaling about my accomplishments in the last decade and it opened my eyes to everything that I was truly able to accomplish. This was really eye opening to me because it made me realize how much I was focusing on all of the things I THOUGHT I was “failing” at, while neglecting to acknowledge all of the things that I have been able to do.
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Here is my list of decade accomplishments that I found myself journaling about:
When I stopped focusing on my perceived “failures” and started celebrating myself & my journey, changing how I viewed everything, my life literally changed. Things started falling into place in ways that I never imagined or considered before.
This was such an eye-opening experience for me, and now I want to ask you this: when was the last time you really took the time to celebrate all of your accomplishments along your journey? To really take the time to celebrate yourself, your business/life, all the hard work you do & have done, the sacrifices, the blood, sweat & tears you shed to get you to where you are today?
We get so caught up in wanting to achieve the bigger goal, that we don’t take the time to really celebrate all of the things that happen along the journey that leads us to that end goal.
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But, I think it’s important to really take the time to celebrate and be proud of ourselves for how hard we’ve worked and all that we’ve been able to accomplish. When we think that we aren’t making any progress, it’s discouraging. When we focus on what we are failing at, it’s easy to get down on ourselves and want to just give up altogether.
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When you realize how much progress you have made and all the things that you have done, the energy changes. You don’t feel as discouraged because you are able to see yourself & your abilities in a different light. You become motivated and inspired.
As you continue to embark on your own journey, keep these things in mind:
Celebrate all of your wins
I don’t care how “small” or “insignificant” they may seem, CELEBRATE! Every single step is getting you one step closer to where you are going. Find the growth & learning experiences when things don’t go as “planned”. Ask yourself, “what was this brought into my life to teach me?” or “what was this brought into my life to guide me away from?” Even taking the time to shift your mindset is worth celebrating because that is growth. Celebrate all the “small” things and watch all those “small” and “insignificant” things add up to those milestones you are working towards!
CELEBRATE IT ALLLLL!!
Pay attention to your inner dialogue
Seriously, pay attention to what you are saying to yourself! If you are constantly telling yourself that you are a “failure” and haven’t been able to accomplish anything, then you really aren’t going to get very far. Your thoughts are energy, which manifests into your reality. So, if you are constantly telling yourself how much of a “failure” you are and how you will never be able to accomplish what you want, that’s what’s going to happen. So, pay attention to what you are telling yourself on a daily basis!
Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks
Remember that this is your life and you are on your own unique journey. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing or what anyone else says is worthy of celebrating and being proud of yourself for.
In my recent post on Breaking Free From Society & Creating A Life You Love, I talk about forgetting about societal generalizations to start creating a life you actually LOVE living. We live and create a life based on what society says we should be doing & I’m calling BS on that. We all have special talents & traits that makes us unique and I think we deserve to CELEBRATE that uniqueness.
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Forget about if society says your accomplishments aren’t worth celebrating. Forget that. YOU deserve to be celebrated- every single little thing you’ve done.
So, make sure that you are celebrating all of those “wins” throughout your journey, whatever that looks like for YOU! Those seemingly smaller “wins” are going to add up and could be potentially life-changing if you allow them.
Take the time to really think about and celebrate everything that you have done in life so far, and start celebrating them as they come. You may be surprised at how much you’ve actually been able to accomplish!
I would LOVE to support you along your journey! <3 YOU GOT THIS!
I do offer 1:1 coaching and invite you to check out my opportunities if that is something that you would be interested in. Click here for more information on my 1:1 coaching opportunities! <3
Coach Jessie Shibko